November 13th, 2009
11:06 AM ET

Gay rights advocates need patience

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LZ Granderson
Special to CNN

I'm a single father of a 12-year-old boy who every five minutes seem to switch personalities on me.

One moment he's a starving student athlete hungry enough to eat a cow, the next he's a picky vegan.

I'm told by people much smarter than me that this is normal for a child going through puberty. And so, while I am not an overly religious man, I have found myself meditating on I Corinthians 13:4 to help me get through. Love is patient, love is kind.

I believe there is something each of us can pull from that Bible verse. We may not agree on spirituality or the existence of God, but we can agree that love is one of the most beautiful and mysterious forces. When I'm frustrated with my son, or a friend or even myself, I try to think about the characteristics of love described in I Corinthians before reacting. Be patient. Be kind.

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  1. Tim Gibson

    Perhaps patience is a virtue, yet the continued effort to ignore civil rights violations through the ballot box as the will of the people is only ignorance and the unwilling ambition to stand up for equality for fear of a precious seat on the hill being taken away.

    November 13, 2009 at 12:29 pm |
  2. Teresa, OH

    thanks for tossing in a bible verse on the Internet : )

    I appreciate that you said you are meditating on verses...the bible is never wrong: love is patient and kind: people are not.

    Is there any way in your meditations that you can think on this:

    perhaps all the people that voted against same sex marraige DO love me, Are being kind to me, Are watching out for me, Have the purest of intentions for me and my soul? ( tough to swallow, eh?) what if?

    November 13, 2009 at 11:43 am |