Should you stand by your man? Opinions often differ between men and women and they also differ based on your own individual past stories.
Someone who has been burned tends to feel "NO WAY!" and those that have either been the betrayer or know something about having made a mistake and hurt someone, think it's pretty reasonable to stay with your man.
The answer to what you should do is really quite complicated because infidelity can be the symptom of a very sick marriage that once repaired could thrive well. It's also complicated because despite feelings of betrayal, humiliation, anger and sadness a woman may very well still love this man that she has built a family and a life with. Divorce has tragic consequences both emotional and financial for both partners as well as for the children.
Most marriages do not survive infidelity but some do and in the heat of the discovery is not really the best time to make a decision that will affect all of you for the rest of your lives. Time to think, to grieve and to get professional help is tremendously valuable.
So in the interim it may appear that a woman is passively standing by her man when in fact she is biding her time and allowing herself to think about what she wants and what is possible for her.
– Dr. Gail Saltz, Psychiatrist
Program note:Dr. Saltz is the author of "Anatomy of a Secret Life." She is a guest on Wednesday's 360° at 10p ET.
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