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March 11th, 2008
11:06 AM ET

Just name one woman

Bill Clinton, David Vitter, Gary Hart, Jim McGreevey, Larry Craig, and now Eliot Spitzer.  A partial list of recent high profile politicians embroiled in sex scandals.

Name a prominent female politician caught in a sex scandal.  (Being a victim of a husband's philandering doesn't count.)

I'll wait.

– Lisa Bloom, “In Session” Anchor/360° Contributor

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Filed under: Eliot Spitzer • Lisa Bloom
soundoff (74 Responses)
  1. Ralph

    Mrs. McGreevey, Mrs. Spitzer, Mrs. Vitter and Mrs. Craig have acted like Taliban wives. The fact is most married men cheat, the sensitive ones are those who hide it very well. Add to the list of wives of philandering husbands Mrs. Clinton, Mrs. Jim Bakker,Mrs. Swaggart, Mrs. Jesse Jackson, Mrs. Villaraigosa

    March 11, 2008 at 11:30 pm |
  2. Claudia

    Lisa, I just listened to you on 360. I completely agree with your point. Women are not given a choice to not "stand by their man" if he is in public office. They are told this will help HIS image, it will send the message "we all make mistakes and if my wife forgives me so can the public". This is deplorable! In their private life they can decide to handle the situation any way they wish to but in public;it absolutely sends the WRONG message to girls and women. Can you imagine a man standing by his woman, if the woman was caught philandering? Can you see them next to the podium, rubbing her back and then holding her hand as they walk away from the podium. NO WAY!!!

    March 11, 2008 at 11:30 pm |
  3. Ricar

    My wife and I think that Mrs. Bloom has a good point. Dr. Dershowitz, she is just expressing her opion as you are. Everybody is entitled to their own opinion. It doesn't mean that your opinion is a fact. So please lighten up. Yes, it should be the decision of the woman if they want to be by their husband side when they cheat on them.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:29 pm |
  4. obi

    If Spitzer cared even a little bit about his wife and family he would not have dragged her out in front of the camera under these circumstances. You got yourself into this, be a man and stand out there on your own. The wives who are put in this situation go out there and take this level of unbelievable humiliation is out of a sense of obligation to try to hold the marriage and the family together or out of a sense of pressure to do the right thing politically for their husbands. I say be a man and don't make her a victim twice.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:29 pm |
  5. Ibrahim Mahdi

    Wow. You guys are ignoring the point. This is terrible. Where have all the morals gone. Men need to be better men, and the same fofr women. Our job is to maintain and protect the women and children. Cheating does not do either of the above. Adultery is wrong. Period. Let's not use a logical persuasion to convince people it is otherwise. I stand on the side of right, whether man, woman or child. Don't you?

    March 11, 2008 at 11:29 pm |
  6. Cris Smith

    It's just a difference in how men and women look at sex. Sex has a different value for each. Professor Dershowitz has a more realistic view.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:29 pm |
  7. Gina

    Lisa,

    You, and the Bunny Farm manager and I, a private-citizen wife, agree that having the philanderer's wife stand beside him to share in the humiliation is WRONG. We represent a wide range of folks. I can't begin to understand how Mrs. Spitzer's presence at that podium in any way helps her children, or herself. It only looks good for Elliot (and Bill, and all the other philanderers.)

    Perhaps Mr. Dershwitz - who protests a bit too loudly, it seems to me - needs to realize that others have opinions that don't match his, and have as much right to voice them as he does. Perhaps he's been lecturing for too long.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:29 pm |
  8. Dolly Garrison

    Lisa, I whole hardily agree that it is high time for married women of public officials to show a better example before our young women by not standing meekly beside their low life husbands. By standing by while their husbands, who have violated not only their families, but the office they have sworn to uphold with honor, they are saying that all women are powerless, and have to accept whatever their lowlife husbands want to dish out. As long as we accept this kind of behavior, it will continue.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:28 pm |
  9. John

    What a stupid, poorly thought out charge.

    You want us to name "one" woman who has been caught in a sex scandel? OK, when you can name 1 woman for each 100 men who have been charged for rape, I will name a political wife who has done the same as Spitzer. When male prostitutes reach 1/ 100th of the number of female prostitutes, then your proposition may have some gleaning of relevance. The point, obviously, is that men and women are extremely different. Not inherently better or worse, but clearly different in so many ways that equal rights will never be able to balance. By the way, I do not notice a ring on your finger Ms. Bloom. Yea, right, you get it. sure.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:27 pm |
  10. J

    So don't support the behavior!!! but to give fodder to the masses to chew and hype serves no purpose. She can explain to her daughters how wrong his actions were. Let us not forget that she still loves this man and to abandon him could alienate her from her children should his case goes bad and her lack of support is used to show how disgraceful his action was. I guarantee any prosecutor would use that.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:26 pm |
  11. gordon

    LISA IS RIGHT ! There is no reason for women to suck-up in public next to their adulterous (guilty) man, it shows women still don't have a mind of their own. In almost all cases, WE DIDN'T HIRE THE SPOUSE, it's not her public image problem. It's unbelievable women feel this obligation,. When can you remember MARTHA STEWART'S HUSBAND standing next to her?

    March 11, 2008 at 11:26 pm |
  12. Hugh

    I agree with Lisa......if the situation were reversed and my wife pulled a Spitzer, I would take the kids to Europe or somewhere to get away from the Media and let her deal with it herself. I have no idea why the wife would stand there being humilated by the smug arrogant Governor.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:26 pm |
  13. Aasim

    To Ms. Bloom's credit, I think every man should ask themselves how they would react if they were publicly humiliated with the acknowledgment of their wife's infidelity. I'm not speculating whether or not Mrs. Spitzer did or did not have a real choice in this particular case. I just thought it was really disrespectful the way the Mr. Dershowitz told her to mind her own business in this case when the truth is, there is some legitimate concern over what sort of standard this sets for young girls across America. I know that if I had a daughter, I would want her to have a real choice about leaving her husband if he was unfaithful, regardless of her public role. She is a mother and a wife first, and he has tarnished that relationship openly. She should have a legitimate choice to act as she sees fit, and it is unfair that women are the forced to make this decision in the public lime light.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:26 pm |
  14. Carmen

    Lisa, I am 150% with you…. When is there going to be a woman in the political arena who will take the stand and say enough is enough. Women continue to be humiliated in public. They all stand next to their husbands… looking down as if they were the guilty party. We need to set an example for young women that infidelity should not be tolerated specially in public view. The older gentlemen who told you “to mind your own business” he is out of line. You are entitled to your opinion.

    Great Point!

    Carmen Oliva

    March 11, 2008 at 11:26 pm |
  15. John D. Armstrong

    It is so sad that this person (Lisa) has such a closed mind and of course she probably has never done anything wrong in her life. What a sad world this would be if every lady thought as she does.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:25 pm |
  16. Mae Austin

    Lisa Bloom needs to shut-up! She has no business giving anyone advice on how to handle problems in a marriage. No one knows what was going on in the Spitzer's household between, him and his wife. It's Mrs. Spitzer's business if she stands by her husband.

    In some marriage women run around just as much as men do and the husbands stand by their wivies because of children, finances and etc.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:25 pm |
  17. Mikki Sullivan

    I am a feminist woman and a strong advocate for women's rights. I feel it is none of our buisness to make judment on how a person's partner reacts to these so called acts of immorality. It is between them, and should be a private matter. It is not a Public issue nor does it reflect the job they have done in office.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:24 pm |
  18. Lillian

    I completely agree with Ms. Lisa Bloom!!! This is 2008 and as a woman I am tired of seeing these political wives stand by their cheating husbands (after they've been busted) in the name of family love! Give me a break! It is humiliating and embarassing to all women. It's not like that husband was thinking of the love he has from his wife and children while he was spending an enormous amount of money and time with a high class/expensive whore!!!! Is there such a thing as High Class Whore??? And to Alan Dershorvist (sp) asking Lisa Bloom to mind her own business instead of dictating to women what they should do – SHAME ON YOU MR...I'd like to see your daughter stand by her husband after he's been caught sleeping around!

    March 11, 2008 at 11:24 pm |
  19. Stan

    The Governor has a really good track record as a public servant and should remain in office. This is one of those times a human being makes the wrong choices in life. Lisa Bloom should understand that it is important to resolve issues in marriage in private whether you stay or go is no one's business. Lisa, marriage is an institution not a wrestling match.
    stan
    Maryland.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:24 pm |
  20. NunofURbuisness

    Speak for yourself!

    Dershiwitz is a Legal God! He is so dead on... it is so none of anyones' buisness- especially a female pundits to dictate the outcome of thier marriage because of some long held resentment towards men!

    Lisa sounds lonely.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:23 pm |
  21. G.G.

    Lisa is really out of line. A marriage is between two people and Lisa is working with one-side. She don't know their marriage arrangement, there are kids involved, an entire family and Lisa does not have a personal relationship with them to make such statements.

    He has disgraced his family and frankly I would do just as Lisa states, but her remarks on National TV are totally out of line, none of her business and offensive.

    CNN should not allow her personal opinion to be expressed this way, it's makes for a "side show."

    March 11, 2008 at 11:23 pm |
  22. Charlotte May

    Lisa Bloom is right! To see one more woman standing by her man as men like Alan Dershowitz tell the world it's no big deal that a man disgraces his wife and family is appalling. Men keep stressing it's no big deal when a man breaks the law in this way. The law is the law. Why tell the world it's okay to break the law? He's a lawyer for god's sake.but wait, he's a man too. The man club is getting away this this and women are forced to look the other way and stand by their man. It's sick!

    March 11, 2008 at 11:22 pm |
  23. Maria

    When you marry a politician and you are a women you have no rights, you become his puppy dog – that is what you sign up for when you marry one. The world forgets and forgives the man but the women is a whore when she is caught. Now that is what we really should be talking about.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:22 pm |
  24. Ed Senesi

    Just saw Lisa Bloom's hysterical rant on Governor Spitzer's wife.

    Someone should tell Lisa that TV is a 'cool' medium. Her shrill diatribe came across too emotional and unprofessional.

    Nobody wants to watch unprofessional hysteria.

    I agree with Prof. Dershowitz. Don't tell women what they should or should not do. Women are smart enough to make up their own minds about how to react a husband's infidelity.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:21 pm |
  25. Leonard Brewster

    Lisa Bloom is old technology. She only has a single digit sentence conversation. It's like a 32mb memory card in an at least a 2gb world. She's too obsessed with women rather than all people.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:21 pm |
  26. Jim

    Why do you think that she is the only victim?. There are more in the family besides her. We don't know the story behind his philandering particularly in a society that glorify sex. Maybe she has done the same as well or her behavior led him to some of his straying. Both making mistakes and then there are the children. Family is a strong bond and healing it when matters like this happens is paramount. Urging one partner to leave or condemn the other is just immature.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:20 pm |
  27. John

    Lisa, I just listened to you on Anderson. I agree that it is a wife's choice to be by her husbands side, but do you? If it is their decision to do so, then leave it alone. If or when your husband does it, then you can go awol!!!!

    Peace!

    March 11, 2008 at 11:20 pm |
  28. jake

    The choice for Mrs. Spitzer to appear by her husband was HER choice. You (Lisa Bloom) need to stop dictating and deciding how mrs. spitzer should act in a situation such as this. You are not part of the Spitzer's personal life and it looks extremely unprofessional when you yell on TV about how a married couple should have acted! Be a little more proffesional and start making substantial statements instead of screaming out sexist remarks!

    March 11, 2008 at 11:20 pm |
  29. J

    I find appauling that Lisa assumes that these women did not make up their own minds on how to support thier husbands. These are very intelligent womenn and to say they are merely pawns being distated by their husbands handlers is simply ridiculous. Your attack on these women during such a difficult time is indicative of how our society thrusts for the sensational story to further exacerbate the situation and feed an already embarrasing situation.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:20 pm |
  30. J.P. Ashe

    Thanks Lisa, for revealing the awful situation women put themselves in for standing by a man who has betrayed them. Let them stand alone and explain their situation before the public. I would like to see a man for once standing by their woman who have made sexual mis-steps. Show me that one!

    March 11, 2008 at 11:20 pm |
  31. Ibrahim Mahdi

    I agree with her. Enough is enough. This is ridiculous. Why should she stand by his side while he publicly apologises for HIS infidelity? She wasn't with him while he did what he did. He's got a wife and 3 daughters and he still doesn't respect the sanctity of marriage? I question his respect for women. And her standing there says what he has done is okay. It's not okay. When are the political public figures going to stop making the same stupid decisions? Not mistakes, decisions.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:19 pm |
  32. Sydney

    Lisa, you've overstepped your bounds. First and foremost, she is the mother of three teenage daughters. To stand with her husband, shows her daughters not that they have to "stand by their man," but that in the midst of this nightmare that has now become their lives, their parents will stand for each other. This is a shred of security that I'm sure the children need and appreciate.

    The "cause" – be it feminism, eradication of racism – cannot always be brought into the home. Mrs. Sptizer – Harvard graduate and all – must think of her children and her family first. Let everyone else's mother teach their own children "how to be a woman" today. Mrs. Spitzer has her own battles to fight.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:19 pm |
  33. Sammie Holmes

    I agree with Lisa one hundred percent. I am tired of these women standing with their husbands as the husband apologizes for something he says is not his usual moral standard. As we see Spitzer had been participating in this behavior for a while.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:19 pm |
  34. Tim Petreikis

    I believe that it is a woman's right to leave her husband over these circumstances, but her chance of a greater and more respectable future is if she sticks with her husband. (Example... I don't think that Hillary would be running for President of the United States if she did not stick with her husband over these similar issues!!!!!!)

    March 11, 2008 at 11:18 pm |
  35. hillblogger4

    Is Ms Bloom married? If so, good on her but if not, then watch out.

    If Mrs Spitzer chooses to stand by her man, that's her business! In the same manner when a man stands by his wife in public or in private when his wife goes philandering, that's his business!

    Agree with Anderson Cooper's guest who told Liza Bloom that she shouldn't go around shrieking what married people should be doing about standing by each other in time of marital distress.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:18 pm |
  36. william m

    Yes, yes Lisa,
    The women are put their beside their men as if to say,"you see my wife agrees with all this."
    Only for leverage, and it's wrong.
    If a man gets himself into hot water, he should burn alone!
    William

    March 11, 2008 at 11:18 pm |
  37. Nancy

    You are so right. This is 2008 women- stand up for yourself and don't let "Your Man" humiliate you or your family! If the roles were reversed those so called "loyal husbands" would desert their women.

    Stand up women and don't let these men get away with this to you and your family. Come on women speak up! Don't take it anymore.

    I am glad finally Lisa Bloom has brought this to the forefront!

    Keep talking Lisa!

    March 11, 2008 at 11:18 pm |
  38. Sharon

    Good for you Lisa for standing up for all the rest of us. Maybe you will start a movement. Thanks so much!!!

    March 11, 2008 at 11:18 pm |
  39. Phyllis Coleman

    I'm a 62 year old woman, and I think Lisa Bloom is ABSOLUTELY correct. How dare Allen Derkowitch blast her like that, telling her to mind her own business. If he's married, he probably has his wife "standing by his side" as he pulls his zipper back up.

    Even though I'm an Obama supporter, I admire Hillary to a certain extent. She too "stood by her man". She's not as strong as she lets on to be. If she were, she would have booted Bill right after that.

    Speaking of Bill, neither one of them have really made comment on their friend Eric the Governor. Maybe Bill's name is on that list too.

    If you let a man by the first time, rest assure, HE'LL DO IT AGAIN!

    March 11, 2008 at 11:18 pm |
  40. Lisa

    Completely agree with you Lisa. What happens in a couples marriage is private. However, when they are public officials, making a public statement (especially about an illegal and immoral act) then it's something different. I do have a right to feel that this Harvard educated woman standing by her man (along with McCreevy, Hillary, etc) is humiliating to her and sends a backwards message to all women and young girls. This man spent (allegedly) $80,000 on prostitutes and she is going to stand by her husband? ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!? He betrayed his wife with PROSTITUTES, spent their money, and did something illegal. What she decides to do in private is one thing but in the public eye, to see her with bags under her eyes, standing next to him, seemingly supporting him is just appalling.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:18 pm |
  41. Kim

    Why is it that the woman is expected to think about the children? Why didn't he think about the children while he was paying a woman other than his wife for favors? Maybe the loud mouth guy over talking Lisa can answer these questions.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:17 pm |
  42. S. Kate

    I agree with Lisa. I am a communication scholar and feel that many women do not feel that they actually have choices. I hate seeing these women stand dejectedly behind 'their man' as they admit that they have been unfaithful and have shamed the family.

    My own father was unfaithful to my mother and she never condoned his behavior. If she had, I might not feel that it is a problem for a partner to be unfaithful.

    I think it is important that women in our generation start to stand up and not take a cheating spouse. Likewise, if a woman in the political field were to be found guilty of these same behaviors– I would hope that her husband would let her and her public know that he does not support her behavior!

    March 11, 2008 at 11:17 pm |
  43. Kate

    Most women in politics wouldn't have the energy left for philandering. I think sex serves a different purpose for the different sexes. Not to mention, most of the women in prominent politics are nearer their menopausal years and are probably more focused on keeping their hormones in line than having extramarital affairs.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:17 pm |
  44. Sandy Giberson

    I completely agree with you! As a mother or a 21 year old daughter who also had a "philandering" husband, I think we women send the wrong message to our daughters, and young girls in general when we "stand by our man". As if we have no self respect. Tolerating this type of behavior keeps women stuck in these types of relationships. I think it is very arrogant of the men on the panel to even imply that they can relate. You are right, name one woman who had another choice? Do you think a man in public life would allow himself to be humilitated in this way? I think not................

    March 11, 2008 at 11:16 pm |
  45. Rocket

    GO LISA! you tell it to dershowitz!
    it's about time someone stood up and said that women in politics – or anywhere do not need to stand silently by their philandering husbands. perhaps when women start walking out (and getting closer to being president) men will realize that they actually have something to lose when they think with their pants.
    our sisters and daughters deserve better examples, even if our mothers had few.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:16 pm |
  46. Rebecca

    Women do not, by and large, have the compulsion to seek out random or extra sex. Men, for some reason, have little ability to control this urge, even when the stakes are quite high.

    I agree with Lisa – women need to have the option to stay home and let the idiot hang out to dry.

    I thought that the $40m – $60m spent on the Lewinsky investigation would have been better spent sanctioning a husband-beating stick for Hillary to use on him. (haha)

    March 11, 2008 at 11:16 pm |
  47. Sharon

    Lisa– Thank you. Alan D. is arrogant as ever. Women should be able to decide that they are not going to stand with these low lifes that they marry.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:15 pm |
  48. Easter

    I don't think that you are wrong, Lisa to point this out. There are some unrealistic expectations of women, particularly in the limelight. I think that this is a valuable discussion, one which I am disgusted that you are not able to conduct w/o the men on the show interrupting you. We all know that you do not stand for all women, but as a woman, you add something to that discussion.

    March 11, 2008 at 11:14 pm |
  49. Diane

    Hurray, Lisa! I have been yelling at the TV all day. Why is Mrs. Spitzer standing there? I don't care how much I am trying to keep my family together. I would NOT stand up next to him while he gave that speech. It didn't even sound like it came from the heart. I lost respect for Hillary, regardless of her reasons for putting up with Bill's crap. Here we go again. I am a democrat too. So, it's not a party thing. Barack seems like a very honest person and that's why this over 50 white woman loves him! Diane

    March 11, 2008 at 11:14 pm |
  50. Pat from CT

    Based on the low numbers of women in powerful political positions, not many – but –who do you think MOST of these men were foolin' around with ?? WOMEN! Most married ones who had jobs, kids, etc...just cuz you don't know their names & faces doesn't mean they dont' exist...........

    March 11, 2008 at 10:49 pm |
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