Comments on: Do men really want to get married? http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/2009/07/14/do-men-really-want-to-get-married/ Tue, 22 Dec 2009 04:00:12 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: brandon from Ft. Worth http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/2009/07/14/do-men-really-want-to-get-married/comment-page-1/#comment-802846 brandon from Ft. Worth Wed, 15 Jul 2009 14:25:45 +0000 http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/?p=46266#comment-802846 boys grow up playing with toys, girls grow up playing house and marrying their dolls. I guess where just wired different. boys grow up playing with toys, girls grow up playing house and marrying their dolls. I guess where just wired different.

]]> By: Isabel S • Brazil • http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/2009/07/14/do-men-really-want-to-get-married/comment-page-1/#comment-802845 Isabel S • Brazil • Wed, 15 Jul 2009 14:19:24 +0000 http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/?p=46266#comment-802845 Marriage is good, very good! People think that life will change with marriage, but does not change much when the couple already have a life together (dating). Why do men have an aversion to marriage? On the last day July 12, between back and forth, I did 6 years of marriage. A curious fact is that at the end of June I was godmother of marriage, for the 2nd time, of a friend. As my friend said marriage is good, if the first marriage was not successful, who knows next time. Already in relation to the children there are exceptions. They change the life completely. A curiosity: <i>Anderson Cooper, what do you think of marriage? :)</i> Marriage is good, very good! People think that life will change with marriage, but does not change much when the couple already have a life together (dating). Why do men have an aversion to marriage?

On the last day July 12, between back and forth, I did 6 years of marriage.

A curious fact is that at the end of June I was godmother of marriage, for the 2nd time, of a friend. As my friend said marriage is good, if the first marriage was not successful, who knows next time.

Already in relation to the children there are exceptions. They change the life completely.

A curiosity: Anderson Cooper, what do you think of marriage? :)

]]> By: Joanna http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/2009/07/14/do-men-really-want-to-get-married/comment-page-1/#comment-802841 Joanna Wed, 15 Jul 2009 14:04:53 +0000 http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/?p=46266#comment-802841 Nice article! Refreshing to see and hear that men do like the idea of one special woman for the rest of their lives. Nice article! Refreshing to see and hear that men do like the idea of one special woman for the rest of their lives.

]]> By: James Estevens http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/2009/07/14/do-men-really-want-to-get-married/comment-page-1/#comment-802833 James Estevens Wed, 15 Jul 2009 13:21:56 +0000 http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/?p=46266#comment-802833 I think that one important problem, which contributes to the exacerbation of the natural fear that men may have about the huge change marriage is, is the fact that the family continues to be a thing of ridicule and derision by many in the media. The father figure is especially the target of such undeserved ridicule. From Fred Flintstone and the Honey Mooners to Homer Simpson and Family Guy there is a direct and sustained attack on fatherhood and its importance to our ever decaying society. I think that one important problem, which contributes to the exacerbation of the natural fear that men may have about the huge change marriage is, is the fact that the family continues to be a thing of ridicule and derision by many in the media. The father figure is especially the target of such undeserved ridicule. From Fred Flintstone and the Honey Mooners to Homer Simpson and Family Guy there is a direct and sustained attack on fatherhood and its importance to our ever decaying society.

]]> By: James Estevens http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/2009/07/14/do-men-really-want-to-get-married/comment-page-1/#comment-802832 James Estevens Wed, 15 Jul 2009 13:21:45 +0000 http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/?p=46266#comment-802832 Yes, we do. There is a great deal of things about being married that men love to have. There are many things we leave behind that we also love. But the incredible experience of having children and sharing your life with someone you truly love is worth the compromises that have to be made. Yes, we do. There is a great deal of things about being married that men love to have. There are many things we leave behind that we also love. But the incredible experience of having children and sharing your life with someone you truly love is worth the compromises that have to be made.

]]> By: Marika Saliba http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/2009/07/14/do-men-really-want-to-get-married/comment-page-1/#comment-802829 Marika Saliba Wed, 15 Jul 2009 13:17:53 +0000 http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/?p=46266#comment-802829 Do men really want to get married? I would answer that with "Do women really want to get married? Yes, but not always for the right reasons. Marriage is interwoven into our culture and upbringing. There is no escaping marriage except for the individuals who are honest with themselves that marriage is not for them. Do men really want to get married? I would answer that with "Do women really want to get married? Yes, but not always for the right reasons. Marriage is interwoven into our culture and upbringing. There is no escaping marriage except for the individuals who are honest with themselves that marriage is not for them.

]]> By: Schuyler http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/2009/07/14/do-men-really-want-to-get-married/comment-page-1/#comment-802824 Schuyler Wed, 15 Jul 2009 11:56:12 +0000 http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/?p=46266#comment-802824 Men still want to have the so called play boy image, and most people in the generation that I live in would say its better to live together before marriage any way.. Where years ago that was a big no no, living together and not married. The world has become to liberal. Men still want to have the so called play boy image, and most people in the generation that I live in would say its better to live together before marriage any way.. Where years ago that was a big no no, living together and not married. The world has become to liberal.

]]> By: Gail Duncan http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/2009/07/14/do-men-really-want-to-get-married/comment-page-1/#comment-802822 Gail Duncan Wed, 15 Jul 2009 11:27:37 +0000 http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/?p=46266#comment-802822 Sad that is takes a piece of paper to get benefits and do what's right. That is how marriage appears to me. If I love someone, I love them. Not for what they can do for me. Respect and truth are the key. Birds of a feather flock together. Sad that is takes a piece of paper to get benefits and do what's right. That is how marriage appears to me. If I love someone, I love them. Not for what they can do for me. Respect and truth are the key. Birds of a feather flock together.

]]> By: Lori http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/2009/07/14/do-men-really-want-to-get-married/comment-page-1/#comment-802775 Lori Wed, 15 Jul 2009 05:31:10 +0000 http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/?p=46266#comment-802775 He has a good heart and it shows. It's the most important thing. He has a good heart and it shows. It's the most important thing.

]]> By: Lori http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/2009/07/14/do-men-really-want-to-get-married/comment-page-1/#comment-802768 Lori Wed, 15 Jul 2009 05:22:04 +0000 http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/?p=46266#comment-802768 Does he have a good relationship with his mother? Does he have a good relationship with his mother?

]]> By: Lori http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/2009/07/14/do-men-really-want-to-get-married/comment-page-1/#comment-802765 Lori Wed, 15 Jul 2009 05:15:20 +0000 http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/?p=46266#comment-802765 It was love at first sight for me. It was love at first sight for me.

]]> By: lisa http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/2009/07/14/do-men-really-want-to-get-married/comment-page-1/#comment-802748 lisa Wed, 15 Jul 2009 04:12:43 +0000 http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/?p=46266#comment-802748 I don' t think so not has much has us women do. I don' t think so not has much has us women do.

]]> By: Amanda http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/2009/07/14/do-men-really-want-to-get-married/comment-page-1/#comment-802740 Amanda Wed, 15 Jul 2009 03:59:15 +0000 http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/?p=46266#comment-802740 I think men want someone to take care of them. Someone to take the role of there mothers and if that means getting married then yes I do think men want to get married. Men just don't think of getting married the same as women. I think men want someone to take care of them. Someone to take the role of there mothers and if that means getting married then yes I do think men want to get married. Men just don't think of getting married the same as women.

]]> By: rachael weiss http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/2009/07/14/do-men-really-want-to-get-married/comment-page-1/#comment-802725 rachael weiss Wed, 15 Jul 2009 03:35:34 +0000 http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/?p=46266#comment-802725 I fainted in the elevator at the MGM Grand Hotel when I met the inlaws!!!!! I should have gotten it then.....With a NEW YAWK overbearing mother from Brooklyn I should have jumped on the next plane.....I got married.......The marriage of Hell in the end...................Why dont we listen to our gut instincts one must ask.........Here I was....Stuck with the mother in law from Hell and giving up my career........Still recovering..... I fainted in the elevator at the MGM Grand Hotel when I met the inlaws!!!!! I should have gotten it then.....With a NEW YAWK overbearing mother from Brooklyn I should have jumped on the next plane.....I got married.......The marriage of Hell in the end...................Why dont we listen to our gut instincts one must ask.........Here I was....Stuck with the mother in law from Hell and giving up my career........Still recovering.....

]]> By: Nancy R.N. from East Los Angeles http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/2009/07/14/do-men-really-want-to-get-married/comment-page-1/#comment-802723 Nancy R.N. from East Los Angeles Wed, 15 Jul 2009 03:34:24 +0000 http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/?p=46266#comment-802723 AC....I can only speak as a real woman and to tell you the truth it depends on the what the man is made of. If he wants to share a life of family and security and safety....then get married to the right companion...woman or man. But if he wants to play around and not be committed...then pleazzzze....don't even think about a committed relationship. I think a real man or real woman has to do with their sense of comfort with themselves, their focus and shared perspective on life. I also believe that a real man can be a single man who is honest with people. Remember, people are complex, human dynamics are extreme and life is only once in this lifetime. God help us all! AC....I can only speak as a real woman and to tell you the truth it depends on the what the man is made of. If he wants to share a life of family and security and safety....then get married to the right companion...woman or man. But if he wants to play around and not be committed...then pleazzzze....don't even think about a committed relationship. I think a real man or real woman has to do with their sense of comfort with themselves, their focus and shared perspective on life. I also believe that a real man can be a single man who is honest with people. Remember, people are complex, human dynamics are extreme and life is only once in this lifetime. God help us all!

]]> By: rachael weiss http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/2009/07/14/do-men-really-want-to-get-married/comment-page-1/#comment-802722 rachael weiss Wed, 15 Jul 2009 03:32:58 +0000 http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/?p=46266#comment-802722 That may be true......So did I....... That may be true......So did I.......

]]> By: Abby http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/2009/07/14/do-men-really-want-to-get-married/comment-page-1/#comment-802717 Abby Wed, 15 Jul 2009 03:29:46 +0000 http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/?p=46266#comment-802717 Wow. It would be nice to read an article about women who are totally uninterested in getting married, because I am one of them! to "the Truth": Amazing. I couldn't have said it better! Wow. It would be nice to read an article about women who are totally uninterested in getting married, because I am one of them!

to "the Truth": Amazing. I couldn't have said it better!

]]> By: alice patterson http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/2009/07/14/do-men-really-want-to-get-married/comment-page-1/#comment-802715 alice patterson Wed, 15 Jul 2009 03:25:26 +0000 http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/?p=46266#comment-802715 Most men don't want to get married, because it's too final, but they want the close relationship and the dependability of it. Not to say, they're not in love with their significant others, but I think they would prefer not to marry. I've seen some marriages end due to the pressure of expectations partners have for one another. In a lot of cases they feel somewhat trapped by a legal union that encompasses everything in their lives. I also think convenience plays a big roll in many marriages, whether it's children, finances, or the fear of being alone. Humans fear the loss of their freedom. Most men don't want to get married, because it's too final, but they want the close relationship and the dependability of it. Not to say, they're not in love with their significant others, but I think they would prefer not to marry. I've seen some marriages end due to the pressure of expectations partners have for one another. In a lot of cases they feel somewhat trapped by a legal union that encompasses everything in their lives. I also think convenience plays a big roll in many marriages, whether it's children, finances, or the fear of being alone. Humans fear the loss of their freedom.

]]> By: Rachel Conine http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/2009/07/14/do-men-really-want-to-get-married/comment-page-1/#comment-802713 Rachel Conine Wed, 15 Jul 2009 03:23:22 +0000 http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/?p=46266#comment-802713 A better question is how men & women define what marriage actually is . . . . "Give me one line that defines marriage." "Do you believe in marriage using that definition - for yourself? A better question is how men & women define what marriage actually is . . . .

"Give me one line that defines marriage."
"Do you believe in marriage using that definition – for yourself?

]]> By: Sabrina In Las Vegas http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/2009/07/14/do-men-really-want-to-get-married/comment-page-1/#comment-802710 Sabrina In Las Vegas Wed, 15 Jul 2009 03:18:35 +0000 http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/?p=46266#comment-802710 YES, you just have to wait until they are ready or it falls apart. They usually have the "light switch moment" when they turn 30 or older. When they finally realize who the right one is, they are there for life. I don't know if I agree with the notion of the transferring from the loss of a father to a bride is good. Usually it it to have a different type of love....a partner not to replace a parent but the love should be fairly unconditional...not adulterous. Yes as a spouse you are part parent, part friend, and part child to them...you teach, you share and you learn...that is an ideal relationship. The right guy will find the right gal and be able to be all to him and he will be able to be all to her. I think they stray when they are forced into a relationship or it is for the wrong intentions. They have to be mentally, emotionally invested into it for it to work long term. Under the right conditions, it is good. YES, you just have to wait until they are ready or it falls apart.

They usually have the "light switch moment" when they turn 30 or older.

When they finally realize who the right one is, they are there for life.

I don't know if I agree with the notion of the transferring from the loss of a father to a bride is good. Usually it it to have a different type of love....a partner not to replace a parent but the love should be fairly unconditional...not adulterous.

Yes as a spouse you are part parent, part friend, and part child to them...you teach, you share and you learn...that is an ideal relationship.

The right guy will find the right gal and be able to be all to him and he will be able to be all to her.

I think they stray when they are forced into a relationship or it is for the wrong intentions. They have to be mentally, emotionally invested into it for it to work long term.

Under the right conditions, it is good.

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