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June 16, 2008
The California Supreme Court's attack on marriage
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Same-sex wedding cake topper figurines are seen at Cake and Art in West Hollywood, California
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Tony Perkins
President of Family Research Council

When the clock chimed 5:01 p.m. PST, the California ruling that threatens to undo thousands of years of natural marriage officially took effect, triggering five months of social chaos that could wreak havoc on every state in America.

Homosexual couples hoping to make history will race down the aisle as early as tonight in at least two counties where clerks of court offices have agreed to stay open late and "marry" homosexuals.

Kern and Butte Counties won't be among them–not even tomorrow, when the homosexual wedding march will begin across California in earnest. Thanks to the courage of County Clerks Ann Barnett and Candace Grubbs, the local offices will stop performing wedding ceremonies altogether.

To comply with the law, Kern and Butte Counties will still issue marriage licenses, but they refuse to subject their staff to the Supreme Court's blatant disregard for traditional morality and individual religious rights.

In an interview with the Los Angeles Times, Ann Barnett says that the decision to stand up to the liberal establishment has not been an easy one for her or her family. Kern's County Clerk has been a target of hate mail, received so many threats at home that she's disconnected her telephone, and been labeled a "religious terrorist" by hostile critics.

While same-sex crusaders trumpet tolerance for their behavior, where is their tolerance for Barnett's beliefs? You won't find it. Even the Kern County Supervisor, Don Maben, is insensitive to her rights as a government employee. "[S]he made a unilateral decision and just shut everyone off."

Sound familiar? It should, since that's exactly what the California Supreme Court did by disenfranchising more than four million voters who defined marriage as the union of a man and woman in 2000. In the end it is not about tolerance at all, it about forced acceptance.

We applaud the brave men and women in California who are risking their jobs and safety to rebuff this coordinated attack on marriage.

The Republican leadership and presidential candidates could stand to learn a thing or two from these local statesmen. We urge them to take this opportunity to weigh in publicly on the importance of marriage and pledge their support for the marriage protection amendment this fall.

Meanwhile, FRC will continue to bring its educational message to the state, where our ads in Sacramento and Orange County are reminding voters what the California court has now done to injure families and undermine the well being of children.

Editor's note: This from the Family Research Council ran over the weekend in the Sacramento Bee and the Orange County Register.

See Campbell Brown's live interview with Tony Perkins tonight at 10p.
The Family Research Council is a Washington think-tank. Tony Perkins is also the author of  Personal Faith, Public Policy.

189 Comments
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189 Comments
Claire   June 16th, 2008 9:01 pm ET

I'm sorry Mr Perkins but I have to disagree with you. I don't see how 2 people that love each and want to spend their lives together hurts "natural" marriages. No one's marriage is anyone's business, except their own. People can choose to focus on their own lives and that of their family or they can choose to focus on other people's lives and judge them.

No one is without sin in this world and until we are maybe we need to stop judging others and leave that up to God.

Peter Beckman   June 16th, 2008 9:03 pm ET

Mr Perkins,

Lets get a few things straight (no pun intended). The Kern County Clerk's marriage ceremony program was vastly successful. So successful, in fact, that in fiscal 2007, 44% of all marriage ceremonies that occurred in Kern County occurred at the Clerk's Office.

Ann Barnett has consistently asserted (although almost no one believes her) that her decision has nothing to do with religion, but was motivated by financial, space and security concerns. The problem with this story is the fact that she did not discuss any of these matters with other County officers. Before making such and important decision, good faith required that Barnett discuss space and security concerns with the County Administrative Officer (who manages the building the Clerk's Office is located in) in order to see what could be worked out. She did not do so, the first time the County Administrative Officer knew that Barnett was claiming there was a problem was when he read her press release cancelling the program. Similarly, Barnett did not discuss any financial problems with the Board of Supervisors (which funds her office) prior to cancelling the program. In Kern County it is unheard of for any official to cancel a major program withough discussing the matter with the Board of Supervisors. In addition, in her last annual report to the Board, Barnett claimed that the marriage program made money.

So, if Barnett based her decision on her religious beliefs, then she is a liar. If she did it for administrative reasons, as she claims, you just wasted a column.

Journey, Abilene, TX   June 16th, 2008 9:10 pm ET

Massachusetts hasn't spiraled into "social chaos" or "wreaked havoc" on the rest of the country yet. In fact, it has one of the lowest divorce rates in the country.

So much for your hateful fearmongering, Mr. Perkins.

C, California!   June 16th, 2008 9:21 pm ET

How does gay marriage "wreak havoc" on America? How does two adults loving each other and wanting to take care of one another harm anyone?

If you are so concerned about families and children, why don't you focus your energy on battered wives, abused and neglected children, or families living in poverty?

Do you realize how stupid is sounds to try to make an issue of this when there are so many other IMPORTANT things going on.

Gay marriage is not a sexual issue it is a civil rights issue. I can't understand how, in America, a segment of the population is still denied their rights and have to live in the shadows.

Get a life, Mr. Perkins.

Stacy   June 16th, 2008 9:23 pm ET

Please explain to me how two consenting adults wanting to officially proclaim their love is an attack on marriage. If you truly want to defend marriages, Mr. Perkins, your time might be better spent focusing on the reasons why people get divorced.

In any regards, the fact of the matter is your side has already lost. The tide is turning and there's nothing you can do to change it back. Like interracial marriage before it, in the coming years gay marriage will be legal and the majority of the country will be wondering what all the fuss was in the first place.

Tammy, Berwick, LA   June 16th, 2008 9:33 pm ET

Hmm...I thought God loved all His kids and wanted their happiness. Apparently the religious right once again know more than God. Someone please share the memo with Him.

Kathy, Andover   June 16th, 2008 9:53 pm ET

It's between the couple that wants to get married!

rachel b.   June 16th, 2008 9:54 pm ET

Mr. Perkins, I completely disagree with you. I am a gay teenager in high school and am constantly getting made fun of and bastardized for my sexual orientation. People seem to think that my orientation threatens who they are or what there future will become. I fail to understand how my marriage, whether it be with a male or female, has any effect on how you live. And I know that this is a repetititous point, but I am still quite shocked by your point of view. And as it is stated by CNN's Hilary Rosen, "This is not a nation that tolerates intolerance anymore." Hopefully this means that your future, closed minded thoughts will be ignored and disregarded.

Annie Kate   June 16th, 2008 10:06 pm ET

Mr. Perkins

I think you over exaggerate – I don't see how 2 people who love each other being together undermine the marriage of other people or do a disservice to children. In the work place we are taught to respect diversity – we should be respectful of diversity outside the work place as well.

Annie Kate
Birmingham AL

Becca Lind   June 16th, 2008 10:17 pm ET

Mr. Perkins-

Hm...I need you to explain something to me here...you wrote "Thanks to the courage of County Clerks Ann Barnett and Candace Grubbs, the local offices will stop performing wedding ceremonies altogether." Now, that seems like a fine statement..however, there's one word that's used, i feel, incorrectly. Now, maybe i'm just picking on semantics here, buuut i think you actually meant "thanks to the [i]cowardice[/i] of Ann Barnett and Candace Grubbs..." not courage.

You see, it's courageous for the Supreme Court to pass a bill and willingly face the "wrath of god" in order to grant happiness to hundreds of homosexuals, it's courageous for gay men and women to come out and get married, despite the hate they have to endure from people like you, it is FAR from courageous to try and belittle those efforts taken by the government to ensure happiness for all in our society, whether by having a blatant disregard for the law and refusing to practice it as it's written, OR by writing an article extolling those who refuse to practice while simultaneously mocking the courage of the supreme court.

Oh, another thing, "We applaud the brave men and women in California who are risking their jobs and safety to rebuff this coordinated attack on marriage." About that...I find this to be strange...see...the only person I see attacking marriage here is you, and those who've been brainwashed by people like you, and I assume you can't POSSIBLY mean your pals Anne and Candace when you say "brave men and women" becuase, well, as we've already discussed....disparaging real bravery is nothing but shameful cowardice.

I don't want you to think I disagree with the entire article, though. The part where you say "The Republican leadership and presidential candidates could stand to learn a thing or two from these local statesmen" I completely, 100% agree with. These local statesmen can certainly teach our presidential candidates something. They are teaching them what NOT to do in order to become president. Wonderful observation there, Mr. Perkins.

Gary Chandler in Canada   June 16th, 2008 10:17 pm ET

Why can heritage houses be legally protected, and native rights preserved; but straights cannot keep the tradition of their institution? If I was gay, I would care less about being 'married'. Heck, I would even consider it a sign of latent heterosexuality.
Live how you want, but don't steal another groups sacrament. Gays are generally very creative, why can't they 'invent' something like 'life bond' or 'soul mates'?
What's up with all this gay pride? I guess all along it has been just the opposite, can't be married. wahhh

Jessica   June 16th, 2008 10:26 pm ET

Time to come out of the closet, Tony perkins! It's usually the ones hating on something the most who are trying to hide their own association with which they hate.

Look at the republican party in general – they have the same views on gay marriage as you, yet look at the number of them who have to resort to unsafe, illicit trysts because they want to be with someone they're attracted to but they feel the need to not "be found out".

When you decide to look inward and accept your own feelings you won't be so hateful towards these loving couples and you hopefully also won't be so ashamed of your attractions

Franky   June 16th, 2008 10:27 pm ET

Wow!!! What a cool update!! Is like is high-tech all over again! pretty cool guys, pretty cool....

And as for the gay marriage, I mean, is California! California is crazy!! I'm not gonna lie but I don't know if I'm ready for legalizing gay marriage here in the states. I don't know guys, is crazy you could say. I will respect their decision but overall, I don't know what to think, I don't know what to think......only time will tell.

Claire in Birmingham, AL   June 16th, 2008 10:28 pm ET

If two people who love each other enough to want to proclaim it to the world and where they pledge to spend the rest of their lives together... that is something to CELEBRATE, not condemn.

Just because someone may be different from you, sir, doesn't make them evil. Just because someone may or may not be attracted to the same sex as you, doesn't automatically make them a 'threat'.

Who are you to say who can and cannot marry? Who are you to make unjust accusations about your fellow man? Our own Declaration of Independence says "we hold these truths to be self evident, that all men are created equal"....not all STRAIGHT men. ALL men, sir.

Gay people are no less human than you. They bleed, they love, they laugh, they are NO DIFFERENT. How dare you accuse them otherwise! It is people like you - who have the same small-minded, ignorant views - that are contributing to the chaos that our world is today. It's not "homosexuality"...it's the persecution of it.

Think about that and consider how 'righteous' you truly are.

Larry   June 16th, 2008 10:40 pm ET

Can you just imagine what this is going to do to all the genealogists out there? Thought that Plutoid was gonna wreak havoc with textbooks and dvds on astronomy; wait til you get genealogists trying to work on family trees:)

Laura Paxton   June 16th, 2008 10:45 pm ET

Does Anderson Cooper back this opinion? I am shocked. Gay couples marrying is no threat to marriage. Straight marriages will continue. There are a lot of reasons why people get divorced and why the divorce rate is so high and none of them have to do with gay marriages. It's ridiculous. It's a narrow minded view of marriage, based on some Christian beliefs, that marriage should be between a man and a woman. I'm a Christian, and I do not agree. Why not expand the definition? Straight marriage will still continue, failing at the same rate it has been.

Raymond G. Adams   June 16th, 2008 10:50 pm ET

As someone who has been married to the same woman for over 25 years, I would like to add my comment to this issue. Being with the one you love is the most important aspect of our very short lives. My wife has endured breast cancer and a brain tumor, so we both know this fact very well. We BOTH support, with all our hearts, the decision of California to sanction the union of couples in marriage – ANY COUPLES; be they man and woman, man and man, or woman and woman. It is time to end the discrimination against gays and lesbians. Gays and lesbians are members of our families; they are our brothers, our sisters, our sons, and our daughters. Their love is as important, as honorable, as sacred as is the traditionally accepted love of a man and a woman.

Chris   June 16th, 2008 10:51 pm ET

Nonsensical drivel, as usual. You've lost Mr. Perkins, move on.

Mr. Lee   June 16th, 2008 10:51 pm ET

Upon hearing that at 1701 hrs on 16 June 2008 gay marriages were legalized in California, my mind was filled with disgust. Aside from the radical liberal polices already in place in California, this blatant attack on the definition of marriage is unwarranted. First of all, the highly infiltrated radical courts of California are not the place to decide an issue such as this. As I recall, voters soundly rejected redefining the definition of marriage a couple of years ago. Why are the courts trying to change things? I'm sure when we have the vote on this issue later this year, the voters of California will again reject the ludicrous practice of Gay Marriage.
Stacy, stop changing the subject from Gay Marriage to why people get divorced.
C, California, what does families living in poverty have to do with Gay Marriage?
Claire, you have a point, but you must keep in mind that through democratic practice, Californians already voted on this issue and rejected Gay Marriage. Gays and their counterparts SHOULD live in the shadows becausa their practices are against Natural Law. I'm not talking about against the Bible, the Constitution of California, or common sense. I am talking about why males are males, why females are females. Gay Marriage is one step in the wrong direction. Humans re-create, and Nature intended opposing sexes to be together to support this. Two of the same sex in an official relationship such as a marriage serves no purpose other than to mock the morals that have been around since the beginning of time. I love a lot of people, even males! This does not mean I am going to marry them! I think Gays misinterpret their relationships with same sex counterparts. They are just good friends, and should leave it at that.
If people want to be Gay together, they need to do it behind closed doors because no one wants to see such disgusting, immoral behavior on our streets. Closed doors will not really help though, because God sees everything. Some sins are forgivable, others are not. Keep this in mind.
On a conclusive note, I pledge to you all that I will fight this Court decision to my grave. This is one of the most disturbing events in California since the 1989 Assault Weapons Ban. Does anyone see California growing more and more like a Socialist State?

Dawn from MA   June 16th, 2008 10:52 pm ET

This is a hilarious blog. "Where is the tolerance of intolerance?" As nonsensical an article I've ever read. What wonderful satire of the Conservative Right!

I'm getting married in MA this summer and I just want to say, knowing that my friends – gay and straight – can all marry whomever they want – makes my marriage mean all the much more, because I am not enjoying something exclusive to 9/10 of the population, but something universally available in my state. I am so happy that California has also decided to eliminate this form of discrimination, and hope that other states will soon follow suit!

Kids do best with two parents who love them and love each other. Period.

mark   June 16th, 2008 10:53 pm ET

i find it laughable, and amazingly hypocritical that, while the right wing has spent so much time and effort fighting against perceived affronts to the sanctity of marriage, numerous members of the republican party are having affairs with their pages, divorcing their wives, sending pornography to pages. wasn't it jesus who said, "why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye, and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye." if you people are truly interested in preserving the sanctity of marriage, let me see you fight to outlaw divorce itself. admit it, it has nothing to do with the sanctity of marriage. it's all about your homophobia.

Tim   June 16th, 2008 10:53 pm ET

What's more important? A civil servant's religious rights or my religious rights? My religious beliefs do not condemn homosexuality nor same-sex marriage. If a civil servant doesn't approve of same-sex marriage then she shouldn't marry another woman.

A civil servant's refusal to marry same-sex couples is completely irrelevant in any case. Marriage is a CIVIL ceremony. You can get married in a church, but it's not legal without the marriage license from the state.

The state – including a headstrong, bigoted civil servant – has no business imposing religious views on anyone.

Terry - Brampton   June 16th, 2008 10:53 pm ET

You do not protect your rights and freedoms, by denying them to others.

I do not see anything that will harm me, my family, my grandchildren in
Gay marriages.

And I still will beleive in God, just as much as Mr. Perkins....I'm just not as much of a loud-mouth or show-off about it.

David   June 16th, 2008 10:53 pm ET

I commend both Ann Barnett and Candace Grubbs for their integrity. I'm find comfort that they are trying to do what is right, even if the new law making branch of the government (the supreme court) has made new laws. I thank them and others like them for their courage dispite the bigots who clamor for tolerance but deny other for thier beliefs.

Jay Parks   June 16th, 2008 10:53 pm ET

I think same sex marriage is wonderful, although I don't want any part of it, there is too many people in the world now. What a great way to stop this crisis.

Jay

Flor in Calif   June 16th, 2008 10:53 pm ET

I am a born and raised Christian woman and married to a man, but that just happens to be my choice. I feel every adult deserves to marry the person they love. I don't feel this is an attack on my marriage in any way. I don't feel this hurts anyone and they should be allowed to marry and celebrate just like I did with my family. I would not take that away from anyone. We need to move forward.

Sophie   June 16th, 2008 10:56 pm ET

Thank you for your excellent article. God bless you for writing it.

Soon the tide will turn as people realize the truth because of a sovereign move of God that will be so strong that nothing will be able stop it. The foundations of righteousness will be restored in this nation. Then multitudes of broken, hurting people will know God's love and honor Him again and turn from their wicked ways.

In the mean time, may God help these tragically deceived people for whom Jesus died and to whom he offers full and free forgiveness for every sin if they will only turn to Him and humbly repent.

Mark Tomasovich   June 16th, 2008 10:56 pm ET

Classic marraige is between a man and a women.If same sex people want to have a legal bond, please just call it something else!

Jason   June 16th, 2008 10:57 pm ET

What bothers me is that the Supreme Court, in one magnanimous move, put aside the will of the people and forced gay marriage upon them. I don't really care one way or another whether gays marry, but I am deeply bothered by the thought that the judiciary can impose its own laws, in direct contradiction to the will of the people of California.

Angela   June 16th, 2008 10:57 pm ET

The decision of two adults, regardless of gender, to enter into marriage is their business and has nothing to do with me or my family (unless we're invited to the wedding). I believe that 50 years ago or so similar editorials about racially mixed marriages were common (it's not God's law!) and amazingly the earth did not stop turning after Loving vs. Virginia.
I have better things to worry about than two men or two women arguing over whose turn it is to pick up the dry cleaning or how to spend the stimulus check. Mr. Perkins might have better things to worry about as well, but maybe he's avoiding them.

Laura   June 16th, 2008 10:58 pm ET

Amen, Mr. Perkins. I am grateful to see someone standing up for what is best for families and best for our society. Keep up the good work.

Beth B   June 16th, 2008 10:58 pm ET

I can't believe you are making this front page news.

Really disappointed in CNN to see this story of two older lesbians getting married as the lead story for this evening.

What is the process for determing what gets the front page? I kept coming to CNN to see the latest on the flood in the Midwest, and the fighting in Afghanistan. But no, this is the top news.

We will ever be able to get over this issue and move on? C'mon. As far as gay marriage is concerned, as long as they don't make it mandatory, who cares??

Chad   June 16th, 2008 11:00 pm ET

What's happening to Ann Barnett is just horrible...although it pales in comparison to what homosexuals have endured for generations. I pray that she's not further inconvenienced.

With the majority of marriages now ending in divorce, same-sex marriages could hardly do much harm to the institution–and indeed may very well redeem it. Having been denied marriage for so long, one would hope that they cherish it more than so many hetrosexuals have.

Instead of fighting to deny marriages to loving couples, Mr. Perkins, your time would be better spent working to reduce divorces and keeping fathers engaged with their children post-divorce.

Beth Messler   June 16th, 2008 11:01 pm ET

If Mr Perkins spent the same amount of time trying to block equal civil rights for gay and lesbian people on more serious family issues such as the current divorce rate among heterosexual couples, the plight of single parent homes, deadbeat dads, etc. Some of these gay couples who have lived in loving families for decades may be able to assist Mr Perkins with working toward solutions for real family problems. Lets focus on what we have in common, not what keeps us at odds with one another. Don't be afraid of us Tony. We care about you too!

Carin   June 16th, 2008 11:01 pm ET

Mr. Perkins,

No one is asking to marry you. Isn't marriage essentially between two people, and then their child(ren) should they choose to raise any? Do you intrude on all your neighbors' personal decisions? In the United States of America?

Unless you see abuse, get over it. How can you be so arrogant that you believe other, law abiding citizens cannot choose with whom to raise children, who will get to make life decisions in case of accident or illness, who will inherit, indeed, who will scratch the place on our backs we can't itch? Just as the miscegenation bigotry was eradicated, soon, this too will be gone.

Please think more carefully before condemning others to a lesser status. We are all human, born with inalienable rights. This is not a tiered society, my religion is not yours to choose, yours is not mine. As you are legally barred from dictating to me, I am barred from dictating to you. Enjoy your choices, accept the others.

Ted   June 16th, 2008 11:01 pm ET

With all due respect Mr. Perkins, anyone who is this dedicated to stopping marriage between to consenting adult homosexuals, is a closet homosexual themselves. We have seen this time and time again, especially in the republican party. The rest of us are just concerned with our own marriages.

Embrace your homosexuality and give us all a break.

Matthew Miller   June 16th, 2008 11:03 pm ET

Here is a real fact that should just end this whole discussion about right and wrong:
homosexuals have the right to be just as miserable as heterosexual married couples, if they chose to be.
More than half of all marriages end in divorce Mr. Perkins, and as for those who stay married, we can't honestly say they are all happy marriages, can we?
Yes, there are exceptions to that, as even a broken clock is right twice a day. However, it is interesting to point out that I hear of and know of many homosexual relationships that have lasted over 30 years....

Albert   June 16th, 2008 11:04 pm ET

Once a few of our gay and lesbians go throught the divorce process that american men go through, they will be wishing otherwise. I beleive that marriage should be completely abolished. People should be able to check in and check out of relationships as needed.

Smith   June 16th, 2008 11:04 pm ET

disgusting!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ann   June 16th, 2008 11:05 pm ET

Tony - go back forty years and substitute "negro" for "gay" – you're saming the same crap the opponents on inter-racial marriage said in 1968 when the US Supreme Court finally struck down the law against that. I heard you on CNN tonight say "only a small, vocal, minority of HOMOSEXUALS" support this "radical" change in the marriage law. Are you truly delusional, or just an incredible liar? I think the latter.

J.L.Osborne   June 16th, 2008 11:06 pm ET

I agree with Mr. Perkins.
I support the clerks who refuse to perform "marriages" for same sex couples.
I pay taxes and have for 30 years, and I also vote according to the Judeo Christian principles upon which this country was established.

Edwin   June 16th, 2008 11:07 pm ET

Marriage was created for man and woman, not for couples of the same sex. It is a union created by God, not by man. That is why our families are so disturbed, and you see so many weird things, crimes, murders, it is because the root of the family is being changed daily.

Mitchell   June 16th, 2008 11:09 pm ET

Mr Perkins, are you so insecure in your own marriage that just because two men who love each other are getting married, you feel threatened somehow??? Whatever happened to the first amendment, specifically the portion that states, "Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion". If this country professes the freedom of religion, then the freedom to not believe in Christianity should also be protected. If these couples wants to marry, they should have every right to do so. And if you are that concerned about immorality, maybe you should focus on Ted Haggard instead, your very own Christian Standard Bearer.

I am also looking forward to a Democratic Majority in both chambers of Congress and the first African American president. It's time the Republicans are put in their place.

James Dylan   June 16th, 2008 11:10 pm ET

"Marriage: thus I name the will of the two to create the one that is more then those who created it. Reverence for one another, as those willing with such a will, is what I call marriage." Friedrich Nietzsche. I also believe marriage is meant for man and woman and that the act of creation can not be broken regardless of what anyone wants to call marriage. But the poor religious version of what Perkins calls the sanctity of marriage was destroyed when divorce became an option, most definitely not with homosexual marriage. The individual well-being became more important than that of the marriage well-being. Right or wrong can only be decided by the individual situation. Such as mine, I was much better off not being raised around my father.

To allow gays to marry doesn't weaken my or any version of marriage , but makes it stronger. I, like my Sioux forebears, see the gay person as one with two souls and a blessing to mankind. They further define who I am. Perhaps in the future marriage will further be defined much differently and deeply than Nietzsche thought. When two gay couples get together to have children.

Gay marriage: thus I name the will of the FOUR to create the one that is more than those who created it. Reverence for one another, as those willing with such a will, is what I call gay marriage. A better grasp of, taking a village to raise a child.

Kelly   June 16th, 2008 11:13 pm ET

Just amazing. And not so long ago interracial marriage was outlawed as well. Blacks marrying whites! What havoc! Please. Instead of judging others expression of love, you and others like you should start exploring your continous expressions of hate.

I dont exactly see all of you self appointed "marriage saviors" standing outside courtrooms protesting straight couples from multiple divorces over their lifetimes. Isnt that ironic.

Jesus Ramirez   June 16th, 2008 11:13 pm ET

As I was reading the CNN.com news earlier today, I came across an article in which you reported that a man that was beating on a 1-2 year old boy, did not stop beating the boy until the man (killed by police fire) and boy (killed by the coward) were both dead. Tonight, I logged on to your website to see if there was any news on the occurance, which I felt is very worthy of news coverage, as I believe everyone should be made aware of the event and everyone should be in a state of outrage. Well, needless to say, I did not find any news concerning the dispicabel (sp) event. I did however, get to see a picture of a couple of old grey haired lesbians kissing each other in what appears to be california's attempt at changing the world. Hey california, wake up, the man killing the kid with his bare hands happened in your state, figure out why he did it, before you waste your time on whether or not a boy should marry a boy and a girl a girl. Please understand that I, and a lot of people who feel the way I do, feel that, if like you say the rest of the nation will follow suite, will be there on the front lines of both my states (TX born and raised / Florida in the end) to let you know, that as always your plan will not succeed. I served my country for 22 years so that you can exercise your right to perpetuate your ideas and shred my constitution in the process, but I did not serve in vain and I believe in my governments ability to protect what I served for and disregard the san francisco mayor as . . . (I'm drawing a blank, as well as I should be). P.S. I did not capitalize california, san francisco, and mayor on purpose, as capitilzation is a sign of respect, of which I feel you are not worthy.

Patrick   June 16th, 2008 11:14 pm ET

I agree with Mr. Perkins that this decision is detremental to the moral fabric of the nation, which is already stretched thin. This debate is most often cast as a rights issue and so I will respond in such a manner. For thousands of years marriage has been the fundamental unilateral building block of families and in turn cultures. For a group of openly practicing homosexuals to determine to so radically redefine what has been the fundamental building block of all human culture in order to validate their own lifestyle decisions is an arrogance of gargantuan proportion. Marriage has always referred to a unique relationship between people who are complementary to one another in both biology and personality that will serve to reproduce children, be held in honor and fidelity, and last for life. What we've witnessed is the determination of a few to hijack the institution of marriage from generations and civilizations that have submitted to marriage as a core of culture. Between this radical redefinition of marriage and the proliferation of no-fault divorce law, the institution of marriage is essentially being so watered down that it will soon be meaningless. The next step will be to legalize polygamy, at which point the institution of marriage will be destroyed – there will be absolutely no criteria left to marriage. As a white male, I would love to con some activist judge into redefining "whites" as a racial minority so that I can take advantage of affirmative action hiring policies and school admissions policies for my children, but that would be absurd. I can't help but feel that is what we've witnessed today – the ridiculous redefinition of a societal and legal institution for the whim of a small minority.

Sean   June 16th, 2008 11:14 pm ET

I applaud his article and his views. As I posted on the alternative 360 view, many of you are missing the point. The Cal. Supreme court clearly went against the view of the people. A poster stated that the cause was lost and the tide was turning. Sorry but you are completely wrong. The 62% that voted this for this ban consitutes a majority in this country and in Nov. it will be determined thru a same sex ban on the Cal. constitution.

Bart from Canada   June 16th, 2008 11:15 pm ET

I live in a country were same sex marriage has been legal for 3 years, 5 in my province. This is a non issue. The sky hasn't fallen, nor has it in other countries where this is law. It is the Family Research Council not the proponents of these unions that are encroaching on individual rights. The Family Research Council should really change its came to better reflect it's mandate, how about 'The Suppression of Individual Sexual Rights and Freedoms Council. They cannot produce one non-biblical argument or statistic to support their cause. SSM is not an attack on marriage. As a heterosexual married person I feel that in NO WAY is my marriage of less worth because gays can marry. Actually I now feel, that marriage, the institution that frames my relationship with my wife has been elevated as its no longer discriminatory. By being discriminatory marriage is an invalid institution akin to all whites social club.

Rev. Dr. Brendan K Callahan   June 16th, 2008 11:16 pm ET

"To comply with the law, Kern and Butte Counties will still issue marriage licenses, but they refuse to subject their staff to the Supreme Court’s blatant disregard for traditional morality and individual religious rights."

What about the individual religious rights of those getting married? Not all religions say gay marriage is wrong. Marriage, in all 50 states, is not a religious issue for the governement - every single state defines marriage as a civil contract.

"Sound familiar? It should, since that’s exactly what the California Supreme Court did by disenfranchising more than four million voters who defined marriage as the union of a man and woman in 2000. In the end it is not about tolerance at all, it about forced acceptance."

The courts did the same thing when miscegnation laws were ruled against. Rights are either rights or they are not - they should certainly never be up to majority rule. We wouldn't even think of voting as defining marriage as only between persons of the same race - so why should we between those of the same sex? We can even legitemately debate whether or not it is a right, but *never* vote on it.

There's a simple solution to all of this, really. If you don't like gay marriage, then I suggest not marrying a gay person. But then again, that takes all the steam out of your sails, doesn't it?

virginiaharris   June 16th, 2008 11:17 pm ET

May God have mercy on America. God made Adam and Eve to be in a marriage, not Adam and Steve. That is so unnatural, just down right nasty. Even animals know their place and we're suppose to be more intelligent. God's wrath will be shown, because it's just like in the days of Sodom and Gomorrah. And God didn't tolerate the homosexual activities there either. He destroyed the entire city. Anyone with any kind of sense would know that it's unnatural for two people with the same sex organs to engage in sexual relations. I just pray that God open the eyes of our justice system and not allow this. Marriage should be between a man and a woman.
Virginia Harris
NC

Jeanette   June 16th, 2008 11:18 pm ET

Why is the excuse of religious beliefs always used to impose restrictions on people who do not hold those same beliefs? The last I checked, we had separation of church and state, and therefore Government cannot deny marriage to two consenting adults based only on religious reasons.

Not so long ago, my own marriage would have been illegal. My husband and I are different races, and there was a time in this country we, too, would have been denied a marriage license.

Instead of running around trying to deny rights to people who don't hold the same beliefs as you do, how about instead celebrating the fact that you live in a country that allows you to worship as you please and uphold those rights for everyone, not just the people who believe the same things you do.

Gooch   June 16th, 2008 11:19 pm ET

Marriage has been between one man and one woman for thousands of years. How dare the liberals 'redefine' what God defined and created. That is the attack on marriage.

What's next? The liberals will say it's unfair to limit marriage to two people. It should be three. But why stop at three? How about four or five? And why not marry family members? How about animals?

Sure that sounds ridiculous, but two men or two women marrying each other probably would have sounded ridiculous to our founding fathers as well.

The liberals have flooded our media and schools with their plan, desensitizing us to their perverse ways. It's just plain sick.

Thanks, liberals, for taking us one step closer to destroying this country. Everything is right in your own minds...there is no moral standard, therefore things will change at your will. The moral standard is whatever you say it is. I can't imagine what the standard will be 20 years from now.

...do you not know that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, shall inherit the kingdom of God.

That's one standard you will never rewrite (1 Cor 6:9&10).

itsreal   June 16th, 2008 11:19 pm ET

Religious people are the biggest biggots in this country, beware of their hidden agenda, they are full of hate, beware of any church America, in the United States and everywhere, their agenda is not to further humanity's well being and overal success, this Mr. Perkins as I can see dedicates his life to spreading the hatred to everybody, his opinion and everybody else like his should be banned...... and they should be put in jail for their intolerance.

The Rev'd Father Raymond H. Clark   June 16th, 2008 11:20 pm ET

We will win equal rights for GLBT people. Time is on our side. The leaders of the anti-gay forces are old. Younger evangelicals are making it quite plain that gay-bashing isn't high on their agenda; and it's starting to fail as a fund-raising ploy. May God grant long life and happiness to all those who will marry in the coming weeks and months.

Father Raymond
Superior (retired)
Community of the Resurrection
San Diego CA USA

Frederick Cusick Jr   June 16th, 2008 11:21 pm ET

I find many flaws in your 'logic.' First and foremost the fact that you think 'natural marriage' was an institution that straight people respect. With a divorce rate of 50%, with people like Britney Spears getting married one night in Vegas only to have it immediately annulled, with people being forced into marriage because of pregnancy or social pressures- 'natural marriage' is anything but...

Mr. Perkins, I have spent many years fighting an up-hill battle over something that seems so simple to me. Loving someone should never be viewed as wrong. When two consenting adults come together and express that love, nothing should stand in the way of that- least of all your close minded views of what love and/or marriage is. No one else has to gain approval for the person they love, there is not reason why I should.

I am a successful professional. I have 2 college degrees, own a home and a car, mow my lawn and pay my taxes. I have never been arrested, never used drugs, behaved like every other 20 something in my day- why should I be denied any of the rights you enjoy as an American. I have committed my life to the service of my fellow men, only to have them shun me for the man I love.

I'm not out to make history. I want to share my life and my love with the man in my life. Neither you, nor your religious beliefs can take that away from me.

I thank the millions of homosexuals who have paved the way for the freedoms I do have, and hope that generations of gays beyond me continue to gain more ground towards equality- because that is what we ALL deserve.

Alan   June 16th, 2008 11:22 pm ET

I completely agree with Mr. Perkins. The decision can and will wreak havoc on every state in America.

First, from a legal standpoint. The law in California is not like the one in Massachusetts. To have a gay marriage in Massachusetts you have to be a resident of that state and it will only be recognized there. The California law does not make that distinction. Therefore when an out-of-state gay couple gets married in California they are going to want to travel back to their home state and be recognized. And since most states do not allow that, there will be lawsuits in every state challenging the current marriage laws. That WILL wreak havoc on every state in America. And that is exactly what the pro-gay activists want.

Second, it does wreak havoc on state in America morally. This effect is not overnight but takes many years to really bear to fruition. Many are calling gay marriage "progress." I guess I can agree with that statement because the progress we are having in America is decay and decay is a natural type of "progress." It's interesting, as I have been reading the responses above, many are like, "if two people love eachother what's the big deal?" I guess if keep our head in the sewer long enough we eventually forget that it stinks. Today it's gay marriage (which most of the readers above don't think is a big deal); in 10 years it will be polygamy (or before); and after that it will just continue to get worse. So buckle your seatbelts America as we slowly, day-by-day, drift out farther in a sea of moral depravity.

Dee   June 16th, 2008 11:22 pm ET

If love is the only condition for marriage we've got problems. What if I love 3 people and we all want to be married to each other? What if I want to marry my sister or brother or even my parent? A social taboo it may be in 2008 but give it a few years. Laugh at me now but mark my word it's coming. How can a court rule against these marriages in light of the setting of this same-sex marriage precedent.

Also, for those who equate same sex marriage with interracial marriage, big difference! A person's race has nothing to do with choice. I was born a black man. I had no say in the matter. Homosexuality on the other hand is a choice. Think about it. If it were biological in nature it would be dependent in some way upon heredity. This would mean homosexuality would be on the decrease not the increase because reproduction is obviously an issue for homosexuals.

oracle   June 16th, 2008 11:22 pm ET

Seems to me like much to do about nothing. We have tax paying citizens paying an extra tax to become joined in marriage. We've got to pay for King Bush's WAR in Irag ! We've got to pay for higher gas prices, and we've got to pay for higher food. Aren't we suppose to be a community? Aren't we suppose to be on the same side of the borders? Shouldn't we say we where there when at least a freedom (something we hold DEARLY) was given to CHOOSE !

Justin   June 16th, 2008 11:24 pm ET

Yet again, those that deem that "traditional morality" something of a positive force for today miss the point, and make a lot of bad arguments along the way.

For one thing, a Supreme Court decision to grant rights to gay couples is not a Supreme Court decision to trample someone's right not to participate in a gay wedding ceremony. Conversely, someone's right to hold religious beliefs does in no way imply that gay couples ought not to have the right to marry. Yet the author of this article, in an orgy of contorted reasoning, seems to think otherwise.

And what are these "rights as a government employee" that the author makes reference to? Is it the right to see others follow religiously-derived morality that, to be frank, is more of a way of following orders - no matter how evil - than it is the following of your own good conscience? Is it the right to quit a job? Is it a right to be able to adhere to religious tenants and have such tenants respected? The only "rights" that Ann Barnett has out of these three, legally, is the right to HOLD her own beliefs, and to quit her job if the job, in her own view, interferes with her beliefs. She has no right to have her beliefs respected as good or right beliefs, nor does she have the right to see others agree. She does, to be clear, have a right for protection against abuse on the basis of her beliefs, but this is different than having a right to demand that others adhere to what she believes is proper action. Futhermore, she has no protection from certain bona fide job requirements, one of which is to respect the legally granted rights of others no matter what her personal inclinations.

And then there's the social goods argument - protect the children, protect families, etc. etc. Well, for one thing, one can make a very good case for why gay marriage itself will bring positive social goods, and even to children. On the other hand, we can question why gay marriage will ever hurt children and families in the first place. Given that this claim of "harm" is never fully or clearly spelled out, though, it's hard to argue against it. Perhaps the author, Mr. Perkins, can clarify it for us. However, given the arguments that he's already made, I'm betting any clarification will be just as contorted and incoherent.

From Canada, where marriage was never ruined, with love,

Justin

Karen   June 16th, 2008 11:24 pm ET

I am a woman happily married to a man for over 25 years.

Our marriage is in absolutely no danger whatsoever from other committed consenting adult couples in love being able to express their love and commitment through marriage and the willingness to take on all of marriage's responsibilities.

I'm thinking that if this were 60 years ago, you might have been among those preaching against the "imminent destruction of society" from "the evils" of interracial marriage. "Unfortunately" (for such fear-mongers), society didn't fall apart in California in 1948, nor in the United States in 1967.

With respect to gay marriage, society ALSO "unfortunately" did not fall apart in the Netherlands in 2001, in Canada and Belgium in 2003, in South Africa in 2006, nor in Massachusetts in 2004, and doubtless will also not fall apart in Norway effective in 2009.

If you feel your own heterosexual marriage is in danger, look within your marriage for the cause, because the seeds of divorce come from within. There are many good marriage counselors out there, there is hope.

Edson Brazil   June 16th, 2008 11:24 pm ET

Seriously, it hurts to read columns like this. I grew up with family values...being respectful to others...there is no space for prejudice or for being judgmental. I learned that if people don't invade your limits you should be understandable and tolerant to whatever they want to do with their own lives. When I read this column I feel like someone writing this is full of hate inside. And...the worst part of it...most families have a gay member. I feel sorry for someone born gay in a family that might make him/her unhappy for a lifetime.

Please, give someone reasons to be happy; don't make the mistake of making life miserable for something you don't understand.

Nancy Anderson   June 16th, 2008 11:25 pm ET

Just how does gay marriage "threaten" staright marriage–come on right wingers-it's a control thing by you. don't let anyone do anything you don't approve of for some narrow minded reason.

Saundra   June 16th, 2008 11:25 pm ET

No, noone is without sin in this world. Jude 1:1-24 explains this new state of moral decline with verse 4: "....they have secretly slipped in among you. They are godless men, who change the grace of our God into a license for immorality and deny Jesus Christ our only Sovereign and Lord".

Whatever excuse you want to use for immoral behavior, wrong is wrong. If you want to address me for my sin, so be it, I want to be more like Christ, not less. Let's adress each individually, not lump them up in some convenient "ism" that works for such and such community against another. Sodom and Gomorrah are just as real as Christ, Moses and Jacob. You can't pick and choose.

Sharon Stone was not far off. Call it what you want, there is always consequence. I'm just sorry she couldn't stick to her guns. Our country and the world's story has already been written, we're just watching it play out.

Argus   June 16th, 2008 11:25 pm ET

Ann Barnett, Candace Grubbs, and those who think and behave like them need to reexamine their positions. They are supposed to follow the law and leave their personal beliefs out of their jobs. If they are so committed to those beliefs that they cannot do their jobs, they should resign. If they continue to flout the law and the rules & regulations permit it, they should be fired.

The issue becomes more difficult when you deal with surgical procedures or other medical issues. Does a physician or nurse have the right to withhold lawful medications or treatment because of personal beliefs? I believe that such caregivers should recuse themselves early enough for the patient to obtain timely care from other health professionals. That's a compromise I'm willing to make because we are dealing with civil society. Whether physicians or nurses who hold such strong beliefs ought to be hired in the first place is also a difficult question: are those beliefs going to compromise the hospital's (or other health care institution) ability to carry out its mission?

If we are dealing with the armed forces and enlisted personnel or officers fail to follow a lawful order, there's a different way of handling their actions or failure to act. Here they cannot opt out without serious consequences (or so we hope).

charles, michigan   June 16th, 2008 11:26 pm ET

When the people hungry and poor they need God. When they are full and rich, they turn back on Him.... IT'S TIME COMING ,, VERY VERY SOON.... PEOPLE

Gladys   June 16th, 2008 11:27 pm ET

I totally disagree with gay marriage. I have 2 children who are gay, but if they were to marry I would have no part of it. I love them and I can except there living arrangements, but marriage is not the answer. God choose a man and woman to marry and live their lives with any children they might have. A gay couple can not produce children, yes they can adopt, but there's not a man and a woman figure for the child to look up to and say oh, I want to be just like my mom or I want to be just like my dad. Come on people think of the here after!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Roger   June 16th, 2008 11:28 pm ET

The only way that human life exists and will continue to exist on this planet is through heterosexuality, not homosexuality. Traditional marriage between a man and a woman embraces this fact and promotes procreation and continuation of life on this planet. Homosexuals cannot procreate amonst themselves – a simple inspection of the human anatomy and just a little common sense makes this pretty clear. How does allowing homosexuals to marry take away from traditional marriage? It's an attempt to legitimize a lifestyle or behavior upon which civilization cannot be exist. Even a child can understand this so why can't California?

Christian   June 16th, 2008 11:29 pm ET

I first want to express my appreciation to Peter Beckman for his informative facts on the case. If only Mr. Perkins could have bothered to put forth objective facts. I am a native Californian born and raised in the central San Joaquin Valley. I am a Christian, I am a hetrosexual over 50 who was married for 15 years. I support the California State Supreme Courts decision to allow two adults who love each other to make a life time legally recognized commitment . Same gender marriages in no way threatens hetrosexual marriages. My marriage ended 15 years ago after my spouse left with the spouse of another couple in my church. It was not my spouse's first nor last affair. My ex-spouse's affairs led to four other couple's, with children, divorce. My spouse attends church, votes Republican, and talks about the sanctity of marriage. I suggest that if Mr. Perkins really cares about marriage he turn is research to the real issues that threaten the family, they have been around since the beginning of time.
Leave the judging to God and support anyone willing to make a life commitment to a person they love. Blessings to all the newly weds, be faithful and love each other and you will have God's blessing.

Andres   June 16th, 2008 11:30 pm ET

Yawn...Can we please focus on some real problems like gas prices, mortgage meltdown, crumbling economy, WAR, the poor, the hungry, Social Security, Medicare and the National Debt. Get your heads out of your behinds and start concentrating on some real problems. Leave the minutia for some other time.

FED UP IN NEW YORK

Matt   June 16th, 2008 11:31 pm ET

I always have to laugh at people like Mr. Perkins and just feel so bad for them. What is so hard to understand about everyone being granted equal protection under the law? THat is not judicial activism it is following the constitution. I'm glad that courts don't take religion into account when making decisions because that is exactly what they are supposed to do. What ,Mr. Perkins, do you believe Gay Marriage will lead to? How does it threaten traditional marriage? Are you now tempted to get a gay marriage instead of a straight one? If you want to preserve the sanctity of marriage then end divorce. Teach couples how to work at their relationships. Teach people what love is truly about. But No, you want to be angry that someone is trying to take away your right to hate, your right to discriminate, your right to feel superior. You are opposing love, and in a world that is so full of hatred, so full of divisions we should applaud when two people want to commit their lives and hearts to one another. We are all the same, you are not better than anyone else and the time has come for you to accept that and fight the fights that really matter.

James Dylan   June 16th, 2008 11:35 pm ET

Tony Perkins, President of Family Research Center, here's some research you can do. Find me a time when "natural" marriage required a piece of paper or notification of others? You would do more for mankind with that than along the lines of your current research.

Rudy   June 16th, 2008 11:35 pm ET

Claire,

There was one without sin…our Savior Lord Jesus Christ. As far as your statement “leave that up to God”…it is clear that the Bible (the Word of God) clearly identifies homosexuality as a sin.

As a Christian I will continue to “love the person” but will also continue to “hate the sin”.

Luke   June 16th, 2008 11:35 pm ET

May be next step is legalization of marriage with animals.
Poor California and America. :(

Adam   June 16th, 2008 11:35 pm ET

"thousands of years of natural marriage"???? give me a break Mr. Perkins. With the exception of the last 70 years or so marriage has been an instituion of female subjugation. Many societies, and some pockets in America, still practice polygamy which historcally is more prevalant than today's one-man-one-woman marriages. And despite the efforts of backward looking dogmatist like Mr. Perkins, Civil marriage in the past centruy has been transformed into on equal partnership between two consenting adults. If these two clerks want to practice thier religious beliefs in the confines of thier church and forbid same-gender marriage in thier congregations then more power to them. But the first amendmant certainly does not extend to them the right to force thier religious views on any citizen in a civil matter!

Claire in Birmingham, AL   June 16th, 2008 11:36 pm ET

The only reason gay marriage should be an issue is if it is made to be MANDATORY. Which it isn't. So mind your own business and work on your own marriages instead of worrying about other's

swilliams   June 16th, 2008 11:37 pm ET

Quite Frankly; this gay marriage allowance sucks.......! Sure our state and federal constitutions allow for numeroous rights as Americans, but where does common Christanity come into our lives? How does that old saying go? "God created Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve" and I'll go on to say " nor did God create Eva and Ava".
Don't get it twisted; I'm no religous fanatic, but I do believe that Jesus was born, lived and died for our sins, but the United States of America; a country I am born, adore and love being apart of is becoming the "Saddam & Gomorrah". That has me in fear of the future my children face and their children and beyond.
So to all of the same sex couples entering California to marry; I do wish you well, but as a native of California I also say "handle your business here and go back to your home state" and to the same sex couples already living in California "beware and respectful to the traditional family beliefs and values when you function in society" because the values and ethics I/we (Californians) have tried so hard to distill in our children are now threaten by you and the state of California. Sure I could exit the state myself, but not only am I a child of the United States of America, California is the womb that gave me birth.

Sincerely; California Love....!

Michael Link   June 16th, 2008 11:37 pm ET

Its obvious that you gays are going to whatever the hell you want. As a true Christian, I believe in God's gift of free will – and that applies to all people. I don't have to like it, but I cannot force anyone. You freely choose it.

Good luck in your lives, and enjoy the happiness you've invented for yourself. I don't feel threatened in my God-ordained marriage, i do feel sorry for you and your eternal souls.

Justin   June 16th, 2008 11:38 pm ET

Dee,

I would suggest you read more on the science of why evolution can produce homosexual behaviour. Homosexuals may not reproduce directly, but their genes also exist in brothers and sisters, who may very well pass on their genes. So, whle homosexuals, in general, don't pass on their genes (except with IV fertilisation), if they care for a relative and devote resources to their well-being, then they are actually helping their own genes survive.

Furthermore, by your reasoning, shouldn't haemophilia and other hereditary diseases been declining for millenia now, seeing as how they greatly reduce the chances for reproduction?

All of this is very interesting, and I suggest you read, for starters, R. Dawkins' The Selfish Gene.

David R.   June 16th, 2008 11:38 pm ET

I'm suprised at how few people understand the angle from which you are writing. Most people sadly don't understand the idea of Man-Woman marriage being instituted by God. At the very least it is one of the only institutions evident in nature itself. The legality of same-sex marriage is just another step towards a steady erosion of the family unit in America. The effects of which are slowly being felt and expanded in America since the 90's.

I'm suprised the the defenders of same sex marriage get so violently frustrated whenever people reverse the logic of tolerance, and Christians actually begin acting out their faith instead of being the welcomed "Silent Majority". Christians have a right to oppose same-sex marriage because they are a part of the democratic community in America, and have a very obvious behavioral and natural grounds for opposing it.

bob   June 16th, 2008 11:38 pm ET

you hit it square on the head when you said that homo's are intolerant of other peoples beliefs. just call a homo a homo and you're labled and stereotyped as some sort of monster... consenting adults can do what they want to do behind closed doors, but have NO RIGHT in telling and teaching others, such as minors, that their perverted lifestyle is "normal," when it's anything but normal.

james Cole   June 16th, 2008 11:39 pm ET

Lets think of some of the ramifications of gay marriage in California. Are insurance companies going to be forced by the state to recognize a gay couple as a family against their will? If not, how long will it take before a same-sex couple will sue for unjust/unfair treatment? If an insurance company does cover them as a family, when they move out of state the insurance company may be able to drop them to single coverage. Will the couple then sue again the insurance agency, the State or both to force that region of the country to recognize gay marriage? Will that in some way effect other policy holders? When they want to have kids are companies (insurance and places of employment) going to have to recognize both two women’s simultaneous pregnancies, pay them both for maternity leave and medical coverage? What about when men what to adopt? Are they going to have to sue companies if they don’t treat the men with equal paternity time even though there is no recovery period from adopting as there is from giving live birth? What if the birth rate as a nation drops significantly? Will that in turn create a similar situation with Social Security, Medicaid, Medicare and federal tax income that we see today? Should we even continue to pay Social Security, Medicaid, Medicare in the future? These are just a few quick thoughts that I have not heard anyone talk about yet.

Jen   June 16th, 2008 11:39 pm ET

Read Genesis chapter 19 to find out what happens when men have relations with other men. America is on the path.

Bayou Vol   June 16th, 2008 11:40 pm ET

Homosexuality is nothing more than a maladaptive trait of affluent society. I find it hilarious that so much effort is spent trying to legitimize and rationalize behavior that is counter productive to human life on this planet. This is so obviously wrong that those who have convinced themselves of its acceptance, have done so by warping the very threads that make us human. It's taken a lot of work and money for people to rationalize the cognitive dissonance that gay marriage creates in a person of ordinary means and sensibilities. Congratulations. The PR machine of the last decade has worked. You have actually succeeded in devolving the species. Next up, woman marries dog...or better "man's best friend gets a ring." Rediculous.

Phyto Guy   June 16th, 2008 11:41 pm ET

RE same sex marriage.

It bothers me that those who do not believe in equity cite polls to support their bias.

At one time in history, women were not allowed to vote; Asian Exclusion laws were on the books, Japanese-Americans were placed in concentration camps during WWII, and the Civil Rights Act was only signed recently in 1965. At each point in time the majority felt that it was "OK" to discriminate against the various segments of our population. Those who stand against marriage between humans of the same sex exhibit a bias similar to those of the past with regard to race. Let's not let history go unnoticed when discussing the issue of gay (human) rights.

Thank you.

Charlotte   June 16th, 2008 11:42 pm ET

Today two ladies in San Francisco were married that have been in love and together for 55 years, the same as my husband and I. Our marriage was celebrated by society in the 50's, theirs was shunned. It's very past the time at our point of history to change this unbelievable travesty to American citizens who have been born GLBT. This is not a theocracy it is a democracy and a republic ,time to realize this Mr. Perkins and company. Common sense, love and tolerance has nothing to do with being liberal, moderate, or conservative, so stop with the liberal, liberal, and more liberal. These moderates are more than tired of the same broken record.

Brad   June 16th, 2008 11:43 pm ET

Wow. All these comments so far except one is "for" gay marriage.
Well, I'm not. And let's examine just a few short points why.
God, that's right, God said, in His immutable, unmoveable, incorruptable, undisputable, historical, and uncontradictable authored book, said that marriage started with MAN and WOMAN. How is it that a person can't think even scientifically about this issue. The fact that I am a believer in God and His historical and accurate revelation to mankind aside, vagina and vagina just doesn't go together; penis and penis just does not do it. The science of man able to pro-creat with another man is impossible. Why deny this? Is it natural? No, of course not. Don't deny the truth of science to bring into existence your un-natural view on humanity. It not only is UN-natural, but it is a slap in natural marriage's face. Just think of the result of the next 20 years if all mankind became gay? You would destroy the human race from existence. That is realty folks. That is the truth whether you like it or not, whether it fits your views or not. I'm not gay hater, just a realist. Let's be real. The lifestyle of gay people is not "better" for human existence. It may be pleasurable for a time, or right in the eyes of man for a time, but it's result and fruit is death to mankind and the end of natural evolution. Oh wait, can we examine animals for a second. Do boy deers find other boy deers do mate? Of course they don't. It's not in the DNA of animals to do so. There doesn't exist such a thing. Only humans have the propensity to sin in this un-natural way, b/c only humans have the ability to think in such ways. And such is the way of man without God, sinful. Let's take a minutes to be honest, and perhaps ask God what he thinks, rather than presume that all believers in God want to judge another for their actions. My God, if I was prohibited the right to "judge" or "assess" one's actions, then how can there even be LAW. This is what LAW does, it judges the actions of men, and impliments penalty for "wrong-doing". Is it wrong to kill off the human race for the sake of un-natural marriage. I think so. Think people. Think through this to it's conclusion. Your's in the only truth that exists......God's truth....holy scripture. ~Brad

E. Chikeles   June 16th, 2008 11:44 pm ET

Mr. Perkins I agree with you. Personal beliefs aside, same sex marriage is not natural.
Besides that, in regards to another comment, God does love everyone including gays. He also loves murderers, but that doesn't make murder right.

Dennis Pence - Texas   June 16th, 2008 11:45 pm ET

Hey everyone – God does love all His creation – but he still hates sin and the scriptures – which I believe come from God, still teach that for a man to lie with a man, a woman with a woman is "pervision" and therefore sin. Passing a law by any Stupreme Court (no misspelling -the Stu comes from STUPID.) does not overided God's Word. Why don't we just let men have multiple wives, women have multiple husbands (all at the same time). Why should they be anymore abnormal than homosexuals? Come to think of it, if a child can be tried for murder at 16, why can't they have sex with whom they choose – regardless of age. We can't have it both ways – either we can all do what we want or we can't. I used to live in a country with a government "of, by and for the people". Somehow, that concept has been taken over by a Liberal establishment that thinks they know what is best for us all. Maybe if we get enough outside tolerance for everything but Christianity (the principles this country was founded on) we can all do what we want, when we want, with whom we want – and to hell with everyone else. But – I am sure the liberal establishment would make sure that never happens – unless they want it to.

God help us all – we have lost our moral compass.

Trasa, Texas   June 16th, 2008 11:46 pm ET

The homosexual community should be allowed the freedom as everyone else. It's nobody business, but their own. True, I don't like the homosexual thing, but it's here in full force and I respect the right to choose who you want to spend your life with whether it be male or female. My brother is gay, and I love him for him. The lifestyle is not for me, but however, he's a good person and that's the life he wants and is happy with it. His life doesn't effect how I live or the rest of my immediate family lives. Hell, my best friend is as well. I just wish America would stop butting in where it doesn't need to be. Stop trying to control and tell people what to do with their life. And like so many others, it's not going to affect the sanctimony of marriage. It may be of the same sex, but the the beliefs are still the same, staying committed to one life partner and all that other stuff that goes with it. Hell, I was watching a special on the gays that were married and raising kids,so far they seem to have a better idea of family values than those that are not.

Lithande   June 16th, 2008 11:47 pm ET

We do not limit marriage to Christians, nor do we deny agnostics and atheists the right to marry.

We do not ask heterosexual couples if they are fertile. We do not ask heterosexual couples if they will be having children.

We do not ask people to abstain from marriage and intercourse if they do not plan to have children.

Marriage is nothing more than a contract between two individuals for inheritance and ins... We do not ask heterosexual couples if they are fertile. We do not ask heterosexual couples if they will be having children.

We do not limit marriage to Christians, nor do we deny agnostics and atheists the right to marry.

We do not ask people to abstain from marriage and intercourse if they do not plan to have children.

Marriages in a church that are not recorded in a courthouse are not deemed legal. Marriages by officials who are not members of the clergy that are recorded in a courthouse, are recognized as legal.

Marriage is nothing more than a contract between two individuals for legal, inheritance, and insurance purposes. While many people romanticize it, many do not. The reality is that people who marry don't have to have any emotional attachment whatsoever.

There's no legal reason to deny the contract.

Bruce   June 16th, 2008 11:47 pm ET

The California constitution separated marriage from religion conclusively: Quoting from the recent decision: From the state’s inception, California law has treated the legal institution of civil marriage as distinct from religious marriage. Article XI, section 12 of the California Constitution of 1849 provided in this regard: “No contract of marriage, if otherwise duly made, shall be invalidated by want of conformity to the requirements of any religious sect.” Marriage is first a civil union and a religious ceremony is not required by law.

Susan   June 16th, 2008 11:47 pm ET

Reading this post, I was reduced to tears. Mr. Perkins, you and those like you are what drove me from the Christian religion I practiced and taught for for almost twenty years.

Firstly, two men or two women marrying will not (or at least, should not) have any effect on your heterosexual marriage. It will not make your marriage any more or less valid in the eyes of the law.

Which brings me to my second point: the seperation of church and state. Marriage is not just the romanticized white-dresses-and-red-roses affair Hollywood makes it out to be. Marriage is a legal union. The only thing disallowing same-sex marriage is preventing is the legal benefits a heterosexual couple shares. If a same-sex couple shares the same love and devotion as a heterosexual couple, no amount of homophobia is going to come between them. Who are you or any other religious zealot to come between a legal agreement between two consenting adults? Let the fluffy bunny marriage ceremony stay in the church; let churches decide if they will perform marriage ceremonies for same-sex couples. But how DARE you sit on your self-righteous high-horse try to impose your particular moral beliefs on someone who may not share them.

I am praying for you, Mr. Perkins. And while I hate your sin, I love you, the sinner.

Edson Brazil   June 16th, 2008 11:47 pm ET

Hahahahahahahaha!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Don't worry ROGER! Life in the planet will not be extinguished because of gay marriage. Gays always existed in this planet and we still have a concerning growth of its population. Be reasonable! Your comment is immature. Even if California or other states/countries do not allow gays to get married, gays will still be here...and many more will be born. Yes, that's true! BORN GAY! Maybe nobody can explain that yet...but that is something innate, not acquired. It's not a matter of choice!

Andre   June 16th, 2008 11:49 pm ET

People are so hypocritical.

Newt Gingrich divorced his wife on her death bed. Ronald Reagan and Bill Frist were both divorced. Guess they didn't hold the "institution" of marriage as all that sacred. And they want to preserve Brittney Spears' ability to marry every week.

The Old Testament bible thumpers are so fond of waving around prohibits the eating of shellfish, cutting hair, growing flowers indoors, mixing cattle, wearing cloth made of mixed fibers, and divorce among other things. Why aren't the protectors of marriage rallying to ban divorce?

Oh, and that same Old Testament encourages slavery.

Read your bible, folks.

Mike A.   June 16th, 2008 11:50 pm ET

Maybe I'm being overly simplistic, but for decades, the traditional "attack on marriage" has been divorce. Half of all traditional marriages end that way, so where's the outrage over the proliferation of divorce lawyers? Or for that matter, where was the outrage over Giuliani, Thomson, or for that matter Reagan (first divorced President)?

Say what you will Mr. Perkins, you don't like Gay people, and you wrap your intolerance in the narrow wording of your faith to support that intolerance.

Beverly   June 16th, 2008 11:51 pm ET

Mr. Perkins,
I completely agree with you and commend your standing up for what is right and ultimately what is right for America. God Bless You.

Thomas   June 16th, 2008 11:53 pm ET

This country is going to hell in a hand basket. Cry out all you sinners. Civil rights. This is a choice alright. Its a choice to live in sin and disobey the commandments of God. You that write your comments wouldn't be around if if weren't for Mom and Dad. There are no Mom's and Dad's in gay marriage. Don't you get it? How will this destroy things? Example for one. Gays are no more "special" in their sin than a person who has some kind of addiction. And you all cry out for rights. Freedom of speech comes with responsible and gay marriage is so illresponsible. I love you, its your sin that makes me so sick. God said to love the sinner, but to hate the sin. Gays need to repent and forsake their sin and come unto Christ. Its as simple as that.

Don H   June 16th, 2008 11:53 pm ET

Re: Tony Perkins question: "Where do you draw the line?" (three people, underage people? animals?, incest?)

Answer: homosexuals are natural citizens belonging to a numerical minority with a different in-born sexual orientation, unequal in number, but equal in rights just as are blacks and other minorities. You draw the line at the same age limits (eighteen) and number of people that can marry (two) and current martial status required (single or divorced) that you do with heterosexuals. End of discussion. That question is obfuscating, and purposely so.

Fay, CA   June 16th, 2008 11:54 pm ET

Let these so-called Christians disagree with gay marriage if they must, but they DON'T have the right to prevent same sex couples from marrying. Not everyone is a Christian, or follows that line of thinking.

Tony Perkins post is one of the most ridiculous things I've have ever read here, not to mention completely disgusting.

Brian   June 16th, 2008 11:56 pm ET

Well said Mr. Perkins. I'm glad that people like you can stand up for your beliefs and what's right. We need more good people like you standing up against this decline in morality.

pete   June 16th, 2008 11:57 pm ET

whats wrong with gay people marrying. just who are they hurting?
haven't we moved a bit beyond the old testament as an arbiter of our lives
pete NZ

Lyz in MD   June 16th, 2008 11:59 pm ET

There is one aspect of this issue that CNN has totally ignored. Being forced by the government to perform same sex marriages is NOT the only reason for a church to do so. Not all churches are HATE CULTS, like this evil Pharisee wants to turn Christianity into. Some churches BELIEVE in performing same-sex unions, and those churches' religious freedom is unConstitutionally infringed by the Pharisees' hate laws.

The government never has forced, or will force, any religious group to perform a marriage it does not believe in. That is a cynical lie spread by the hate groups. Catholic churches, for example, do not have to marry people who have been divorced.

The Constitutional test for government interference in religious practice is "compelling interest." That is also why no court will strike down a law against traficking in child brides- the government has a compelling interest in protecting children from abuse. However, the government has no right to force people to perform a marriage, (rather than sending a couple to another church or to the state), nor does it have the right to infringe MY right to perform same-sex marriages.

Jacey   June 17th, 2008 12:00 am ET

We live in a Judeo Christian society were we believe in God, family, and country. I do not see how allowing same sex couples to "marry" is in accordance with the basic laws of morality. I am not much of a dabater, but I can tell you when something is flat out wrong, and allowing men to marry men or women to marry women is absurd. Some day, we will realize just how rediculous we have become.

Regina Tower   June 17th, 2008 12:00 am ET

It is not part of nature to be homosexual! Also when our courts start making laws above the peoples wishes at the ballot box as a country we have lost our way!

Randall   June 17th, 2008 12:01 am ET

Well LALA Land has done it again! Leave it calif. to legalize an un-natural act!. Unnatural is what it is if 2 men or 2 women was supposed to be together they would make babies but I have yet to see that. But if it did it would happen in calif. But if we must have gays in this country maybe the state of calif. would try to get all gays to live in there state. Which I would be happy to see move them all to calif.

Bruce   June 17th, 2008 12:01 am ET

Marriage between only a man and a woman? What of Islamic countries where a man may have more than one wife? Is that also unnatural? It occurred here in the US before polygamy was outlawed (and polyandry is illegal also).

If everyone waited until they were married to have sex and then had sex only to procreate and we had no birth control, we would find ourselves rapidly outproducing our means of feeding ourselves, as Malthus predicted so many years ago.

Let's all get married, men and women, outlaw divorce, outlaw adultery (it is already still in many states), outlaw abortion, outlaw birth control and see how well off we all are after a couple of decades.

As for spouting off in public on the street corners about one's religion, I say to them: Matthew 6:6.

Vickey   June 17th, 2008 12:02 am ET

A persons moral conviction has nothing to do with their capacity to execute their job duties. If somone refuses to perform a job requirement because they feel it's a conflict of personal beliefs they should quit and allow someone else to collect the paycheck. Everywhere I've worked, if I show up to my job and refuse to do my work it's considered insubordination. There is no logical reason to appauld such behavior as brave (sounds to me like you're appaulding an official bilking the system of tax payer dollars and not working for it).

Terry   June 17th, 2008 12:04 am ET

Edwin, you are out of your mind. Violence and crime are not spawned by same-sex marriages. Lack of parental guidance, instruction, barrages of violent video games, etc. maybe are. Loving lesbian/gay couples are not violent criminals. They have nothing to do with the increase of crime in our country. Mr. Perkins, The freedom for gay-lesbian couples to marry does not in any way threaten heterosexual marriages, unless one of those involved is confused about their own sexual orientation. A lesbian couple who live two streets down from me don't in any way shape or form "rub off" on me, my neighbors, or my neighbors' children. You need to look deep inside yourself to find what the root of your own homophobic fear is.

Katherine Taylor   June 17th, 2008 12:05 am ET

This country ensures freedom but we have gone too far when "freedom to marry" a same sex partner is forced upon us by the judicial systems in spite of vote of the people. The majority vote has been disregarded. Is that freedom? This country was created with a government "of the people, by the people and for the people" by majority vote. It was not intended that desires of the majority be overtured by the judicial system in favor or the minority. I personally feel that same sex unions are immoral and a sin in God's eyes. However, I am more grieved that the vote of the majority has been abolished for the privilages of the few.

Texun   June 17th, 2008 12:07 am ET

I find the thought of Gooch having sex with an animal pretty unappealing, so I hope he controls himself and doesn't assault one. As to the Family Research Council, the whole operation is a put-on; there is no serious research conducted under its auspices. It exists mainly to alarm conservative people and to keep the cash to ultra-right-wing causes flowing. Unfortunately for David R.'s argument, homosexuality between animals of many species is well documented in scientific research, so it's hardly "unnatural." Psychologists, psychiatrists, and the vast majority of practitioners in related sciences do not find homosexual relationships abnormal. So, David R.'s argument might have made sense in a previous milleneum or two, but it surely doesn't now. Social historians have thoroughly documented the decline of the monogamous family; the trend has little or nothing to do with homosexuality, let alone with homosexual marriage. The pity in all of this is that opportunists like Perkins succeed in alarming otherwise decent people unnecessarily and unfairly.

Jay Parks   June 17th, 2008 12:08 am ET

Mr. Perkins, who ever you are,
I still think it's the best way to curb the world wide population explosion. Wha's more inportant, saving the world or feeling good.
Seems like religion (Christianity or whatever faith goes out the window when it come to sex). Wake up people.

jens   June 17th, 2008 12:09 am ET

I'm sorry, I didn't get the memo that the 360 blog was being opened to one sided critiques by non-journalists. Shame on you CNN.

m.e. stern   June 17th, 2008 12:10 am ET

To Those of you who believe that same-sex marriage
contributes to the "decline in American families," consider the following:

How about all of the husbands (and wives) who have affairs
and then ruin their marriage and their kids' lives as a result?

Do you have any idea, also, how many uncles / step-fathers
etc. sexually abuse the girls in their family?

My point is, there are a GREAT many other, more serious factors
in this world, that eat at the American family, than two consenting adults who get together and want to marry, (and happen to be of the same sex).

YOU POINT FINGER AT THE WRONG THINGS!

And, yes, Massachusetts has NOT spiraled into chaos, or
threatened any hetero's marriage as a result of the new legislation, allowing gays to marry,.

Jeanette   June 17th, 2008 12:13 am ET

It is a myth that our Founding Fathers were all Christian. Many were Unitarians or Universalists, religious groups who currently allow gay marriage. Some of our non-Christian Founding Fathers include:
John Adams
Robert Paine
Thomas Jefferson (who edited the Bible, BTW)
Paul Revere

Moreover, some comments show a lack of understanding in how the Court system works. Judges cannot and did not make any laws. The Supreme Court, whether at a State or Federal level, look at a law and compare it to the Constitution of the State or Nation to judge whether a law is or is not Constitutional. Apparently, the California Supreme Court found that a law against Gay Marriage was unconstitutional.

Gay marriage is about such simple things as being at the bedside of the person you love when they are dying, having health benefits, and sharing love. Furthermore, boiling heterosexual marriage down to children is offensive to couples who either choose to be childless or cannot have children.

Finally, historically, there have been all sorts of different marriage arrangements. Many cultures, including many European cultures we now revere, have had homosexual marriages and relationships in their history.

The biggest threat to our nation is ignorance, not gay marriage. If everyone really understood American history and the Constitution, we wouldn't even be having this conversation.

Sam   June 17th, 2008 12:13 am ET

Roger so let me get this straight, since homosexual couples can't conceive children they shouldn't be allowed to marry? What about all the heterosexual couples in America that can't have children? Should we deny them the right to marry as well? Also, if you haven't noticed lately the world is overpopulated as it is. This is due of course to heterosexual couples. Blame everything on the gays because they’re such an easy target, but look in the mirror and there is the real problem. Get a clue before you post such idiotic garbage that has no weight in this argument at all.

Sean O'Leary   June 17th, 2008 12:13 am ET

Mr. Perkins,

As you continue to conduct family "research", why not consult the "Old Testament" about how that marriage thing has worked over the past several millenia. You might notice the patriarchs had multiple wives and concubines, and they were still down with the big J man. So it kind of seems possible that you only pull the stuff from the Bible you can use for hate mongering, but manage to ignore the material that's inconvenient. But you can't have it both ways can you?

I wonder what it is you really fear?

David in Iowa City   June 17th, 2008 12:13 am ET

No one, but no one, from the anti-equality side has been able to explain to me this: how extending rights to one class of citizens erodes the rights of others. It hasn't happened in Massachusetts and it won't happen in California. It also won't happen in future jurisdictions where equality is inevitable.

Against gay marriage? Don't have one. End of discussion.

Mr. Nguyen   June 17th, 2008 12:14 am ET

AMERICA......STOP!!! This country is turning and becoming another ROMAN EMPIRE. I do not hate or have any negative judgement against Gay or Lesbian, however I have concerns with what you guys are doing to my children and other children around the world. "Promoting" Gay and Lesbian is wrong, protecting Gay and Lesbian is right. Recognizing the "Union" of gay or lesbian relationship is right, changing the definition of "Marriage" is wrong. The definition of "Marriage" has been defined for thousand of years, leave it alone. If my son or daughter is born as a Gay or Lesbian, I will love him/her exactly the same as any other child of mine, however, I will explain to them the definition of what a "marriage" is and ask that they respect it. I ask that you all should do the same. I am leaning toward voting for Democrat this year, but I am afraid that there will be another area of Gay and Lesbian promoting to my children that it is "Cool" to be Bi-Sexual. Please leave my children alone. If this country continue on its current path with disregard for what is "Moral", it will perish like the ROMAN EMPIRE once was.

Katharine Wilson   June 17th, 2008 12:15 am ET

We are moving into God's word here. Jahn Hagee says it best, God created Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve. God will deliver His Judgment on California/USA in due time or else He will need to apologise for Sodom and Gomorah. But he is the same yesterday today and tomorrow so there will be no apologies but rather...

Jerry lee   June 17th, 2008 12:16 am ET

I f marriage was entended for same sex it would been from beginning,but wasnt.Our culture is reached new low in condoneing a culture of gay rejects who choose word love as reason to engage into marriage. I say more like gay people cant handle rejection from opposit sex so they turn to one another for acceptance Call what you may think its simple truth our culture is no different then roman empire who by way choose same path of gay rights an was concured from with in because end result was culture collasped from with in due to no one cared any more. If freedom has been twisted once agun to mean equal, but in reality freedom means to be free from . Good people who represent us our goverment who is suppose to serve for better have lost vision of our past founding fathers. Our culture is doomed to make same or worest fate of romans empire mainly because of our coruption of simple word freedom

Mark   June 17th, 2008 12:16 am ET

Thank you to the straight people who understand someone of the same sex could love one another. You inspire me to be a better person. My partner and I have been together for 18+ years and we never needed a license to keep us together. Alot of straight marriages don't last that long.

However, what makes me sick is how some straight people claim gay people are ruining marriage. They need to take a hard look in the mirror and think about their own circle of family and friends. How many times have you heard that someone was from a "broken home". Straight people should put as much energy saving their own marriages or the marriage of someone they know, rather than trying to deny someone that right.

tina m   June 17th, 2008 12:18 am ET

I'm so happy to see that the tide of public opinion has finally changed. I will wake up tomorrow and I'll still be married to my husband. My children will still respect the love that my husband and I have for each other, the world is not ending. Many people who love each other will finally be able to do something most of us have taken for granted. It really has nothing to do with me but I am happy for them.

Hana   June 17th, 2008 12:19 am ET

I'm going to have to disagree.

Gay marriage does nothing, NOTHING to destroy "traditional" marriage. It does not harm the marriages already performed, and it does not detract from family values because the majority of gay couples SHARE those values. Not to mention that this archaic opinion stems from Christian faith, and if a Church doesn't want to perform a marriage ceremony, then so be it. Nobody's is going to make them, but if the STATE wants to allow gay couples to form that final bond which has been denied to them, then so be it.

The gay community does not deserve to be treated as second-class citizens.

Glenn Tucker   June 17th, 2008 12:19 am ET

Up front I am a religious person. I am of course against this but the way I see it is let them have their fun and do what they want. Because there will be a day, in which they laugh about and say will never come , in which they will have to answer for this. You can save this and re-read this when that day happens.

Bleus   June 17th, 2008 12:19 am ET

I'm amazed at the amount of near-complete ignorance on the part of those who make statements claiming that a court is "making law against the will of the people".

For those whose heads are too buried in (very specific parts of) the bible (that support their prejudices), the Supreme Court does NOT make law, it defends the populace from being tyrannized by illegal laws.

As for your, "against the will of the people" argument, I think you very much need to read some articles regarding the limitations and deficiencies of democracy. Alexis de Tocqueville wrote an EXCELLENT book analyzing the American Republic and identified it's vulnerability towards "soft despotism" and (more pointedly), "the tyrrany of the majority". ANYONE who gets up and complains about a court ruling against "the will of the people" is demonstrating total ignorance of this concept (or is simply advocating for the right of the majority to tyrranize a particular minority). In either case, their argument is specious and should be dismissed out of hand accordingly.

Additionally let me simply add that I cannot, for the life of me, fathom how the religious right's selective parsing the bible has lead them to actually BELIEVE that being prevented from discriminating against a minority is actually discriminating against them! - I'm SURE the KKK et al would love to arrange it so granting civil rights to african-americans is REALLY discrimination against white-supremacists!

Jeremy   June 17th, 2008 12:21 am ET

I agree that this decision to allow gay marriage will eventually, as said in the article, "wreak havoc" in America. America is about people, and those people are who they are because of how they are raised in a family. What kind of values do gay couples typically support? No boundries on sexual orientation or judgement of sexual choices. One can not argue with the fact that gay communities include transexual, bi sexual, etc. in their group. Such practices not only cause mass diseases, but distort the nature of procreation. Duuu, as if it is some major surprise. A man and a man or a woman and a woman can not continue life. I'm not saying they should not be allowed to raise children, I am only raising the question of whether it is truly fair for a child who is born of a man and woman to be raised in a gay enviornment.

william jordan   June 17th, 2008 12:21 am ET

same sex marriage is fine long as two people are in love with one and one and do not like this are not nice people and are bunch of hopcrips and backstables and low lifes too and need to keep they nose out of gays and rest our life period or 90.90 billon dollars law shit from gays and rest of us got it from gays and rest of us in usa

Lyz in MD   June 17th, 2008 12:21 am ET

What about MY religious freedom? My belief in performing same-sex marriages is every bit as deeply-held as others' beliefs (and more deeply-held than Perkins's, I daresay, as he is just an evil man who cynically exploits religion to spread hatred for his own selfish gain) but, unlike the THEOCRATS, I have no desire to force them on other people.

As repellant as I find the use of Christianity as an excuse for discrimination, I am not trying to take away your right to do so. YOU, on the other hand, are taking away my right to practice my beliefs, because they put LOVE and HUMAN DIGNITY above HATE.

I am not trying to force YOU to perform same-sex marriages. I am just trying to get MY right to do so reinstated. This is an aspect of the issue that right-wing mouthpiece CNN has studiously ignored.

The only ones trying to force their religious beliefs on others are those trying to ban others from performing same-sex marriages. The government does not force the Catholic church to remarry divorced people. The ban on same-sex marriage is NO DIFFERENT from the Catholic church gaining power and banning divorce.

Denise   June 17th, 2008 12:22 am ET

The GOD of the Bible does love everyone especially since he created us. However, he does not like everything that we do and their will be consequences for our actions that go against his will. If you read the bible then you will know what his will is for us with regards to marriage.

Jerimiah 29:4-9
4 This is what the LORD Almighty, the God of Israel, says to all those I carried into exile from Jerusalem to Babylon: 5 "Build houses and settle down; plant gardens and eat what they produce. 6 Marry and have sons and daughters; find wives for your sons and give your daughters in marriage, so that they too may have sons and daughters. Increase in number there; do not decrease. 7 Also, seek the peace and prosperity of the city to which I have carried you into exile. Pray to the LORD for it, because if it prospers, you too will prosper." 8 Yes, this is what the LORD Almighty, the God of Israel, says: "Do not let the prophets and diviners among you deceive you. Do not listen to the dreams you encourage them to have. 9 They are prophesying lies to you in my name. I have not sent them," declares the LORD.

Maggie C   June 17th, 2008 12:22 am ET

Tony,

I find it incredible that those who profess to believe in God know so little about the Bible, which is God's word. Is anyone familiar with the "Surrender unto Rome that which belongs to Rome ~ "? So follow man's law if you are required to, but give your soul to God and follow his word.

I will not vote in favor of anything that I do not support, and I would never ask anyone else to, but once in a while I would like to see a winning vote stand. It isn't necessary to hate simply because you disagree.

Lori   June 17th, 2008 12:22 am ET

I am appalled that the doctrine of gay people's lifestyle has invaded the sanctity of marriage. Kids are confused enough as this new gay explosion hits the airwaves of TV and media, news and magazines.
As far as I can see the whole being born gay- its not my fault, has long since lost its credibility! Now, as ordinary straight kids are exposed to indoctrination by the media, television shows, magazines etc., all making gay the new fad, the new choice! I grew up in a home where my mother, after being sexually abused by men, was turned "gay" by a female therapist and my life as a young girl was thrown to into such turmoil, advanced only further by my mother changing lovers when I was a young teen with a highly outspoken visibly expressive gay woman. It traumatized me so much, I felt a need to date prematurely. I was just 14, dating a 19 year old. I got raped and it forever changed my view of the world. I wish there were laws protecting children from the sexual preferences of parents. The exposure that a child receives, confuses them and condones gay as normal. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but gay is not normal. There are reasons people become gay, and yes even some that are born that way. But that is not how our bodies work. They were created to match the opposite sex. Just because that opposite sex does not know how to please you sexually ,simply means they need awareness. Being traumatized by the opposite sex simply means you need to choose more wisley. I do not hate my mother, but I hate that she put her lifestyle on display, I hate that she didn't deal with her issues, and it caused me trauma. I have been since married and divorced and I have a grown child. I must tell you the work I've had to do dealing with this crap is vast to help guide her in life. That is our job as adults. To not define "Gay Union" as different, is to not acknolwedge a difference in race, handicap or gender only sufficing to confuse kids more and subject them to possible significant trauma's.

Gay Union is different and it is disrespectful to the truly gay, and straight people not to clarify this.

aaron   June 17th, 2008 12:23 am ET

I find it ironic that the angriest, most hateful of the emails come from those who call for 'tolerance'. Those who want tolerance only want those opinions that agree with their own. Any dissention is considered 'intolerant'.

As for those who call for the separation of church and state, that principle was initiated to protect the church from the state, not the other way around. In this case, the church is in danger. It's only a matter of time before a same-sex couple approaches a church to be married with the intention of suing the pants off them when they are refused. Just wait and see.

Robert   June 17th, 2008 12:23 am ET

I am not religious or conservative. I am a musician and work with many gay people and love many of them. But come on friends and gays, you know the truth. It's not natural. You know it and everyone knows it. If it is what makes you happy then great. But you gays know what a difficult life it is. Don't you think it would be better if we didn't promote this lifestyle so that children will grow up believing that it is a good choice? Most people want you gays to be happy and have equal rights as long as you don't promote your unnatural lifestyle in a manner that makes it difficult for children to see the clear cut difference. This desire you have for your relationships to be called marriage is unfortunate for you. We the people have spoken on this subject and now there will be an ongoing backlash that will not help you. Bummer for you.

otherworld   June 17th, 2008 12:24 am ET

You don't have to be a Christian to know that marriage is between men and women, always has been, always will be. Whatever documentation California is providing queer "marriage" means nothing. The rest of the world is laughing at U.S. over this pathetic breach of the natural order. Anyone who lives, or has to live, around these people knows what they're really like; pathetic reprobate pervers who have abandoned the natural order, and have no real place in society.

Nate   June 17th, 2008 12:25 am ET

(1) One of the key functions of the judicial branch in our country is to prevent the will of the majority from running roughshod over the rights of minorities. On the rare occasion the courts actually do their job, every namby pamby right wing spoiled brat blows a gasket over judges undoing bad laws – "de-legislating" if you will – from the bench.

(2) All of this is much ado about very little, because as we all know, there are still dozens of FEDERAL marriage benefits that gay folks who get married in Mass or CA or anywhere else will still be denied until the FEDERAL Supreme Court has the stones to de-legislate all the unconstitutional state laws.

(3) Tony, you standard bearer of all that is good and wholesome, we haven't forgotten about your prostitute-lovin' buddy Vitter. Or your cat-drownin' psychopath friend Dr. Bill Frist. But, chances are, you still have a job because your supporters have forgotten about all these folks. After all, they are the key constituents of DUMBmerica.

Blab V. Kant   June 17th, 2008 12:25 am ET

I find your entire article to be nothing but closed-minded and bigoted. It's sad to see so many people like you spouting off things like this in this day in age. Are countries like the Netherlands and Spain in social chaos due to legalizing gay marriage?

JeramieH   June 17th, 2008 12:26 am ET

Blacks and women couldn't vote for a few hundred years, I guess that made it right, eh? Because tradition is always right.

Only the most insecure are afraid of change.

David, TX   June 17th, 2008 12:27 am ET

Why stop at gay marriage. Marriage obviously no longer has religious merit for most people posting on this board. Apparently is has more to do with tax breaks, healthcare, and unnatural affection. But lets not stop...I think PLURAL MARRIAGE should be legalized now. It provides the same benefits and it uses all the excuses that homosexuals demand. Rights, consenting adults, and tolerance for all; sounds like the same argument. The only difference is there are more people at the party?

This is all a terrible misuse of democracy. How come the people of the State of California don't get a chance to be heard? This is a travesty that the court decides for the people without giving them the right to vote. Plural marriage, gay marriage, marrying your favorite farm animal…whatever you one-way road tolerance preachers are wanting should still have to be voted on by the people. The court should be reprimanded and the people should have a right to vote.

I believe that gay marriage is just one more way people justify their sin by changing the law to fit their agenda. It helps them sleep better at night….but the laws of God and nature still don't change.

Kevin - New Bedford, MA   June 17th, 2008 12:29 am ET

I would like to take religion out of politics, and the constitution of this country. I should not have to see "In God We Trust." on my currency. I too served my country and wish my President would never utter the words "May God Bless this great Nation." as he sends us off to war. I am a former Roman Catholic. I say former, because after my parents were divorced my mother was asked to leave the church. This was 1985 not 1685 by the way. I listened to my gay uncle sing "Ave Maria" at my grandmothers funeral in a Catholic church and the roof did not cave in. I have a son that is a cancer survivor. During treatment he asked me why God did this to him. These are matters of faith. Not my Constitution. This thread has shown me that this country is still as puritain as when we landed on Plymouth Rock.

kathy V   June 17th, 2008 12:31 am ET

My partner and I are fine, upstanding citizens. We have gained a great deal of respect and positive regard from all of our neighbors, coworkers, family...

Voluntarily, We have been on neighborhood captain boards, assiting the elderly on our block. We have tutored the kids next door.

Now we have a 2 year old who is very happy, well-adjusted–largely because he has two parents who are commited to eachother, to him, to our home, to our jobs, our community.

We are just like anyone else; that is, like anyone who chooses to follow the law, live a code of righteousnous, decency, integrity and honesty. We are "God- faring" individuals, who feel spiritually grateful, humble and loving towards God, or whatever larger power put us on this earth.

Live and Let Live...some of the greatest role models for young people
HAPPEN to be Gay. Hey, we have developed a lot of character from soul searching and living the pain of a marginalized existence.

Peace

RC   June 17th, 2008 12:33 am ET

Those who do not know what Natural Law really is should not speak so openly about it.

Yes, Natural Law mandates that to create a human being, the reproductive cells of a human male and female must be brought together. In no way does gay marriage "attack" that law since it does not rewrite the rules of biology. No harm done there. Period.

Gay marriage will not make straight marriage less meaningful unless you personally think it does, and that's just your own business then. The meaningfulness of something is always a matter of personal taste.

As far as I know, the children of gay couples are no less ruined than the children of straight couples. As long as love is in the home, people tend to do alright. I think that's a pretty obvious statement.

Christianity is not the only religion in this country or the world, and marriage has been going on a lot longer than any monotheistic religion has been around. Religion did not create "marriage" but it did create some very elaborate ceremonies to mark the occasion.

Let's all remember our respective places, people. We are 6 billion autonomous beings with very short lives (relatively speaking), so work on building the happiness in your own short life and not on bringing hardship to the personal lives of others.

When you are on your deathbed, will you celebrate the marriages you prevented? Or the marriage you were allowed to cherish your whole adult life? Think of what that could mean to someone else, even if it really hurts to think about the thoughts and feelings of another human being. I know you can do it.

Jake   June 17th, 2008 12:34 am ET

Honestly, I don't give a rat's patootie who or what you have an intimate relation with.

Please, please, please, don't expect me to believe everything you do. While I will tolerate (see: William Penn: Tolerance) anything that does not affect me in a personal or financial manner, your beliefs are yours. By attempting to force me into believing what you believe is nonsense, plain and simple.

I am not stating my religious beliefs. I am not stating my sexual orientation. These are not important to you. Yours are not important to me. Keep pontificating to those who wish to listen. I do not. I have enough problems without listening to yours.

John B   June 17th, 2008 12:35 am ET

Well, let's just open it up so that we may be able to marry anything we want. Why should sexual orientation be a defining factor in modern marriage? Hey, if you really love your dog you should be able to marry it.

Joe in NorCal   June 17th, 2008 12:36 am ET

It's about E Q U A L I T Y, plain and simple.

Prop 22 in California was an unconstitutional law. Get it? That's why the State Supreme Court struck it down. The Justices acted EXACTLY as the Judiciary is designed – to interpret the Constitution.

Why don't you get your own life and stop trying to tell others how to live theirs. Homophobic bigot.

Angela   June 17th, 2008 12:37 am ET

Intolerance. I'm very glad to see it still exists.

I completely enjoy the fact that people who spawn this hatred probably have never even read a Bible. I'm sure God loves people who hate. Or people who spend more time debating the validity of marriage in God's court, than they do finding murderers and rapists.

I am sure all the crooked Conservative Senators who cheat on their wives have not read the 10 Commandments lately to see that Adultry is right next to murder. I wonder how many people have gotten thrown in jail lately for committing such an obscene act that is right next to murder in THE BIBLE – nobody.

Wow, seriously, are we still debating this?

Pick up your Bible and read it once in a while. I'm getting kind of tired of people like you who don't actually care what God has to say, but make up some garbage in your mind that you think is right.

J.R.   June 17th, 2008 12:39 am ET

I'm a little confused as to why same sex marriage is such a big deal. Those opposed to it have little if anything to say regarding divorce as ruining the sanctity of marriage. What does a religious perspective have to do with the legality of a marriage contract anyway?

Gordon Richardson   June 17th, 2008 12:40 am ET

This has got to be one of the sickest days in the history of California. To open up every news page and see either two women or two men kissing make me want to gag. This is a disgrace and an abomination in the eyes of God and principles that are nation was built upon. We have once more crossed the line and heading fast toward the judgments of God. The Book of Daniel tells us that the wicked will do wickedly and none of the wicked shall understan; but the wise shall understand (Daniel 12:10). Romans chapter one tells up about people who do not like to retain God in theire knowledge, God gave thi up to a reporbate mind, to do those things which are not convenient. Verse 32 tells us that thosw wo commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same but have pleasure in them that do them.

Yes one step closer to the coming of our great God and Saviour Jesus Christ.

Lets pray for our country.

Gordon Richardson

Kent,Illinois   June 17th, 2008 12:41 am ET

Tony Perkins...................

So you feel it is ok for your organization to force YOUR morality and religious practices on the masses? What gives you that right? How is it you feel you see the Big Picture? We live in a very big world and your religious beliefs are not those of the global society.

A new "Consciousness".............. is evolving. Will you go down with the sinking ship?

Bobby, Foster City, CA   June 17th, 2008 12:41 am ET

I'm curious to know why such a good-sensed news source like CNN is even giving bigots like Tony Perkins a soapbox to stand on.

However, I can ignore his illogical babble and celebrate, proud as hell of my home state, happy for my gay friends and their delayed rights and granted opportunity, and on top of it all, knowing that somewhere out there in the U.S., Mr Perkins is angry and fearful of the eternal hellfire raining from the heavens that this is going to bring on.

In any event... people are still going to be gay, like it or not, if you grant them the right to marry or not. Perhaps a large portion of this country thinks that if you take away their marriage rights, maybe they'll stop having gay sex! Or stop being gay altogether! I just don't get the paranoia.

Arturo Vigil   June 17th, 2008 12:41 am ET

perkins your an idiot.... in the near future you'll be seen as we see those racist people who felt blacks should be segregated and who thought woman have no right voting....

You must be a Republican.....

Charles   June 17th, 2008 12:44 am ET

Can anyone tell me why Gay people want to get married?
There will obviously be no naturally born children.
Your religious beliefs obviously differ from the bible as would then your beliefs about adultery, pre-marital relations, and chastity.
Is it acceptance?
Is it healthcare or a tax deduction?
Is it guilt?
You want to pay alimony in a separation case?
Is it to show commitment? (you don't have to get married to be show commitment, any verbal, non-verbal, or written contract can do that. you don't have to be married)

Two people from the same gender can be great friends, room-mates, or whatever without jumpin' in the sac together. So the only reason I can see for them wanting marriage is so that they feel better about themselves because of the guilt they have for their actions.

Thomas K., 82 years old, German Immigrant   June 17th, 2008 12:45 am ET

For those young Americans (and older Americans) interested in experiencing the suave, sensual, indulgent, and insidious language of bigotry and hate, Mr. Tony Perkins' world view is the embodiment. It disturbs me. It is as though I am reading the reincarnation of Joseph Goebbels. Speak out against him. America stands for freedom and tolerance, not the "beliefs" of bureaucrats to which Mr. Perkins would cynically pander. The foundation of power in the manmade institution of religion is fear, just as it is in the totalitarian state. Both lead to unsilenced pain and horrific moral violation, and lie distant to the realm of true spiritual outreach that is the bliss of humanity's creation and wonderment.

Jerry Flood   June 17th, 2008 12:45 am ET

It is rather simple. We come from a Christian based government. It encourages children. Same sex mariage will not give this nation more children to carry on the values and virtues of Christians. We also have separation of state and religion but that is not apparent in our tax codes. Put back the mariage penalty in taxes.....

People should be able to be with who they want. If they do this for tax purposes, they are more crazy than the politicians (and voters) who put us in this situation in the first place.

Gays should be with gays. Heterosexuals should be with heterosexuals. But we all have to live together in this nation. That means that the government does not have to support mariage, and really, it should not. The government should also not support wanted or unwanted pregnancies. This is an individual decision, not a governmental decision though subsidies.

The government should provide what the people want in the amount that the people (and companies) can afford. Roads, Ports, National Defense, Local Law Inforcement, education, sanitation, a fair justice system and many more things are what the government should provide.

Letting gays or heterosexual people to marry is not government territory (and it never should have been that way).

Todd W.   June 17th, 2008 12:48 am ET

I am so tired of Christian people like those above who feel that they have exclusive rights on "morality." Since when is love immoral? What is so scary about two men or two women falling in love and wanting to commit to each other?

This country was not founded by Christian conservatives. It was founded by profoundly spiritual people who knew that tyranny came in many forms–religious OR secular. Thank goodness the CA Supreme Court decided to protect the state's good citizens against the most dangerous form of tyranny of the modern age: the tyranny of the majority. Long live the separation between church and state!

Jenny   June 17th, 2008 12:51 am ET

Mr. Perkins – thank you for having the courage to write your article. I'm not sure how the gay and lesbian community wants inclusion and acceptance of their views and lifestyle but in the same breath label people who oppose them as intolerant and mean spirited. I do not believe in same sex marriages; not because I hate gay people... but because you need a male and female to pro-create and therefore continue with the human race. I would rather see same sex couples have the same rights as traditional male/female couples but just call it something else. Keep traditional marriage between a man and woman.

dynmann   June 17th, 2008 12:53 am ET

That's the problem. People don't see. People use the usual excuse that if people love each other and want to spend their lives together, it doesn't hurt anyone. That's a fallacious point in itself. Marriage has always been "DEFINED" as 1 man and 1 woman. Any other type of union whether it be 1man and 1 man or 1 female and 1 female is not the definition of marriage and it never will be. No matter what the courts put into law and push these outside agendas down the throat of those who don't care to have it thrown carelessly into the definition, it will never be what the Marriage ceremony itself was created for. 1 man 1 woman in holy matrimony. It's a sacred right that is passed down from generation to generation that will never be broken. If homosexuals want to partner up, go for it. It's a free country. It's when you seek to change the meaning of something that's suppose to be sacred between the opposite sex, that's when you'll get opposition. And opposition will come! Sorry, but gay marriage does hurt the traditional family and the values that make it strong. It will never be marriage no matter what people say and no matter what laws are put into place. You say leave it up to God, in this case, God will have nothing to do with it. He instituted marriage for one man and one woman only and what He has put together, let no man separate. That includes it's meaning. Anything else is merely a counterfeit and shouldn't be recognized as marriage.

Jim   June 17th, 2008 12:53 am ET

People say "instituted by god" well if anyone has not noticed we "gay" people don't breed or if we do not nearly as much as what's called the normal part of society but we are still here. I would call that natural – we are not going away anytime soon.

It's a matter of respect. We are people too. My church when I was growing up had in it's bible that we would burn in hell – a god that would do that to me just for being me is not the one I want to fess up to especially when it was Cathloic where the preists all raped the young boys anyway – at least I managed to tell the preist to get his hands off me.

I have been with my partner for 15 years and am very happy. We are getting married on July 17th flying down from Seattle for the event. We feel it's time to be counted. Just for the record my breeder or as you call him "heterosexual" brother has been married 3 times and is in the middle of another divorce, has 5 children and my sister – bless her, is in the middle of one as well.

But do you know what? It's 15 years for me and I am getting married now – not divorced. I live very happily, have a nice home and two wonderful children – well cats actually but that as close I am going to get on that one.

Cheers!

Karen   June 17th, 2008 12:53 am ET

I think it is sad when the majority vote and that vote is over turned by the Supreme Court... I don't think that is constitutional. I think that the sadest part is the fact that the Constitution that worked so well for our country and made it the country what it is, is not being used and followed the way it should be. I wish more judges would take their role more seriuosly than they do. Where is the check and balance of it all?

Robert, California   June 17th, 2008 12:53 am ET

Mr. Perkins,

What happens in November when Californian residents vote no on creating a constitutional amendment banning gay marriages? Right now 51% favor gay marriages, and 44% do not. That seems to me that come November, the Proposition will fail. Then what?

You know we are going to look back on your letter 50 years from now, and historians are going to call you a bigot. Just like today, Historians call Wallace a racist segregationist. What will they say about you 50 years from now?

mike   June 17th, 2008 12:55 am ET

Gay folks pay taxes - taxes that support a comprehensive family-law/court system that offers protections that they are precluded from enjoying. It is rediculous to expect citizens to pay for services they cannot claim/enjoy because a certain segment of the populace finds their lifestyle distastful/incompatible with their own. It is time for gay people to stop asking or "tolerance" or "understanding" and simply demand the rights/privledges that THEY HAVE ALREADY PAID FOR!

The religious right is hanging on to this issue because once it is gone they will have little to sell and make a buck off. My dream is the day when these "churches"/organizations are taxed as PACs. That will shut their traps.

Sara   June 17th, 2008 12:55 am ET

It is a shame when young children are watching the news and reading the newspaper of same sex marriage. I think as adults we forget the thoughts that run through the mind of a young child. Yes children easily adapt to change, however It must create confusion for a young child as for why the other children have a Mom & Dad ? I would think the children with parents of the same sex will grow up not knowing which gender path they should follow. What type of roll models do the children really have?

This society has lost track of good old fashion family values!!

Nick F   June 17th, 2008 1:01 am ET

What rubbish! People who fixate on this non-issue while the world is dying are fools. So some dictionaries will be slightly obsolete. Big deal! There is way too much fear and "us and them"-division in this world. No one is free who fears. It is the homophobes that need to be liberated from their self-oppression. Which is to say, they need to grow up.

Michael, NC   June 17th, 2008 1:02 am ET

I am surprised-but glad that this blog has been allowed to be posted.
It shows how closed minded many people are. It shows how ignorant people are. It shows how hateful people are.
How dare anyone try to take the freedoms of ANY citizen away from them. It is too late for you repulsively hateful bashers to take these HOLY sacraments of marriage away from these loving couples.
You hypocrites who use religion to back your theories are most likely the people who use religion to hide behind your sins and place the blame on the nearest scapegoat. You are the ones who make the lives of homosexual males and females miserable. Wake up.
To relate homosexual marriage to acts of polygamy and bestiality is absolutely abhorrent and completely irrelevant. Those arguments are demoralizing and downright disgusting, and make me wonder what YOUR personal beliefs are. Fortunately for me, I don't judge you or condemn you for what you may or may not practice. That is the difference between you and me. Wake up.
For anyone to say that they would support their children if they were gay, but that they would disown them if they got married is a low blow and shows that they would betray their child before backing them when it matters most. Wake up.
Those of you who think that being gay is a choice are blind and dumb. When you see the hate and disrespect shown towards gays, why the hell would they willingly CHOOSE that lifestyle? Answer that, or else keep your opinions "closeted" and to yourself. Wake up.
I myself know a gay couple who take care of their niece and nephew on a monthly basis because the children's care givers are the worst excuse for parents I have ever seen. They are lucky to have such a loving couple care for them. There are thousands of children who live in group homes and have nobody to love them or care for them because their parents are worthless. How dare you say that the presence of a gay couple would destroy our children when they could be solving problems as we speak. Wake up.
Homosexuals pay taxes like you and me. Homosexuals attend your churches, your schools, and support the nation that we all call home, even though they it seems they are being abolished.
How dare you try to take the rights away from our kin, our family, and our fellow citizens. WAKE UP!

Mark   June 17th, 2008 1:03 am ET

For all you question why it is wrong for 2 people who love and care for each other to get married, there are qualifications for such. Same sex couples are not part of them.
Read the Bible. Gen 2: 18-24, I Corinthians 11: 9-13, I Cor 7:2, Romans 7:2. It is not what "the Cristians" say. It is the laws and rules God gave humanity. Is it that homosexauls are atheists or illiterate , or just that like all others whom stray from the scriptures, they see what they want to see in the Bible to justify their whims and desires?

Kent,Illinois   June 17th, 2008 1:03 am ET

David R..............

You are lost. "The Bible was written by man,and thus is flawed." God is love....................and the power of "Divine Presence". This presence doesn't dwell on the drama of man. Nature is linked into this presence and doesn't know "marriage". Did you ever see a dolphin sign a paper when it chooses it's mate for life?

Please leave "God" and nature out of your manmade drama and it's dissemination.

Henry Drummond   June 17th, 2008 1:10 am ET

I grew up in an era when states defended "traditional marriage" by passing laws making it a crime to marry outside of your race. The reasons for banning such marriages were that supposedly "race mixing" harmed children, was morally wrong, was banned by the Bible, and would destroy society.

Gradually social attitudes changed and laws were changed but not without resistance. There were "public servants" who were praised for refusing to perform newly legal interracial marriages by the same people who demanded strict enforcement of the law but only when it suited their purposes. Sound familiar?

I have found though that reason and reality reaches those whose sense of decency is genuine and whose prejudice is a product of their times.

The late Senator John Stennis fought an unrelenting battle against the Civil Rights movement in the 1960's and lost. In later years he publicly stated he was glad he lost. "The civil rights movement did more to free the white man than the black man" he declared in his declining years. "It freed my soul".

Jill   June 17th, 2008 1:12 am ET

What is wrong with everyone? I am sure most of these comments are from young adults who have lost a lot of their own morals. Obviously, they must have been too young to remember that the PEOPLE of California voted AGAINST gay marriage. THE PEOPLE!!! Ann Barnett is standing up for the people. This whole gay marriage thing shouldn't even be happening according to the democratic system since it does NOT go against the constitution. A few judges are using their power to make decisions on their own and ignoring the majority. Look in the Bible and you will see what happens when the voice of the people vote for iniquity. According to the Bible, gay and lesbian acts are sinful. If California votes against the amendment in November, we may be in for a rude awakening.

hegrebart   June 17th, 2008 1:17 am ET

"thousands of years of natural marriage" - The most frequent form of marriage in thousands of years of history is Polygamy. Even in the Bible, Polygamy is clearly endorsed. King David had six wives. Solomon had 700 wives. Polygamy is practiced all over the world to this day. Monogamy is an attack on "thousands of years of natural marriage" if you really want to look at history, sociology, anthropology, etc.

What you are really saying is that same sex marriage is an attack on your precious bigotry. Two same sex people getting the right to file their taxes jointly and visit each other in the hospital does not detract from an opposite sex marriage. If it does, the problem is the weakness of your relationship. In fact, same sex marriage may make your marriage stronger. You two can cling to each other in your belief that your rights trump the rights of other taxpayers and revel in your prejudice and intolerance.

Sherri   June 17th, 2008 1:18 am ET

When will it be legal to marry our dogs? I really love my dog, and I want him to be by my side for the rest of my life. Any bills on the table in regards to this? If we were to marry the animals we love so dearly, that would be all good, right? It's not about sex at all, correct. I just want to be bound to him forever! He'd look great in a diamond studded collar! Good Grief!

Kevin   June 17th, 2008 1:23 am ET

The Constitution BARS unequal treatment of citizens. Period. The courts have simply upheld this law (this is not "judicial activism", it is what the courts are supposed to do: protect individuals from the "tyranny of the majority").

Your opinions, Mr. Perkins, of it's "morality" or it's potential effect on society are, therefore, irrelevant and, frankly, a little boring to read (especially as a lead story! ).

The Constitution is a limit on the power of government, NOT on the "self-evident" rights of the people. Rights are not granted by the government or the majority (or by you). Any future law that would seek to limit the rights of citizens is, by definition, unconstitutional and will eventually be struck down.

The tide has turned, and you are drowning...

Michael P   June 17th, 2008 1:26 am ET

I agree with Mr. Perkins, simply because the orginal meaning of marriage is defined for a women for her children to be legitamate. Why do you think generally the women surrenders here maiden name and now the family name comes from the husband as his been a tradition. Now the word has been totally disorded

As for God's love, it's true God love's all of us, no matter what , he is merciful, but hey, I love my children and if they disobey me by making up their own rules which I know will hurt them, then certainly I will take action, God is no different which is why Jesus was send down to start the church to help guide us.

Let's put it this way, if we all decided to have a relationship with the same sex, then we will simply erode because there is no reproduction, so it is a concern.

For those who don't think it would be harmfull, it is harmfull because when same sex couple adopts a child, based upon the example they give to the child is that reproduction is not part of God's plan to continue his creation.

Joshua   June 17th, 2008 1:27 am ET

I am concerned that you feel that the CA supreme court did something wrong. It is the job of the courts to uphold the constitution and to make sure that laws are not violating it, even if the voters said that it was okay. Also why is it considered corageous to violate the law and discriminate against other people?

Gecko-San   June 17th, 2008 1:30 am ET

straight couples like my parents have had many years to mess up the "morality of marriage" I don't see how something so abused and tainted can be anymore tangent. A few people marrying the person they want to spend their life with wont hurt anyone. With divorce at an all time high many Americans only grow up with one parent. I will tell you what a child needs THEY NEED ANYONE WHO WILL CARE FOR THEM. THEY NEED ANYONE WHO WILL TAKE CARE OF THEM. THEY NEED SUPPORT TO GET THROUGH THEIR TROUBLE. In my experience having parents of a certain orientation does not help a child it all comes down to the persons themselves and I love my parents but my father was never there and my mother would probably been happier then dwelling on her failed marriages. You Knew how I told happy fathers day to this year My MOTHER that's who. So every rich social conservative that would rather ruin the lives of many to have their warped view of morality is wrong.

Bill pam&sally   June 17th, 2008 1:40 am ET

What about bi sexuals?
I think homosexuals and lesbians are being way too prejudice and bigoted.
They act like we dont exist or that we are confused and are really gay or straight and that we choose to be bisexualout of confusion and ignorance and that it is just not natural.
Instead of reaching out to bisexuals, who need to marry both a man and woman, they are just thinking of themselves and pretending we dont exist.
I say take your head out of the sand and reject this decision brothers and sisters until Bi-sexual unions of 3 or more are included.

Peter Nehem   June 17th, 2008 1:44 am ET

Why is it always "Gloom and Doom"...40 years ago it was Chicken Little all over again......The Sky is Falling, The Sky is Falling, it will be "social chaos that could wreak havoc on every state in America."...if we allow whites to marry blacks. Now we roll forward to now and we hear the same thing all over again.
How much time, effort and money has been spent so far on the "marriage protection amendment" ? Just think what we could do if we took all that time, effort and money and put it towards a cause like what C, California! has suggested: "battered wives, abused and neglected children, or families living in poverty" or better yet a way to reduce the 50+% divorce rate!
I must admit I can not fathom how allowing gays and lesbians to marry is going and I quote,"to injure families and undermine the well being of children"?! But I do know of a word that can and does cause this very thing to happen, it is called DIVORCE. Mr Perkins get you head out of the sand and tackle the real issue of why the family is falling apart, DIVORCE!
John 13:34-35(NIV) reads "A new command I give you: Love one another, As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another." Could you imagine the world where this was followed regardless of your religion?! Spending lots of money towards an amendment isn't "Loving one another" but taking that same amount of money and holding pre-marriage classes or setting up a battered woman's shelter or feeding the poor or buying groceries for a family that can't afford them. These are examples of that.

Rich B   June 17th, 2008 1:58 am ET

I wish CNN would actually do research when they pit Tony Perkins in a he said, he said format.
He said that if gays and lesbians are allowed to marry, then it will open the floodgates. He says he is already married and he can't marry someone. I've heard him or someone else say, "I love my mother-in-law. Does that mean I can marry my mother-in-law?" No, you are married. You are not going to marry your mother-in-law. Gays and lesbians do not want to marry their in-laws. Or the dogs as people like Tony Perkins try to make this about.
Interestingly, on NPR recently, there was a story about Muslims living in the Philadelphia area. Men who are married to more than one wife. These are U.S. citizens. So, if Tony Perkins is saying that there are laws on the books that define marriage as "one man, one woman," why then are the laws not enforced when it comes to men who want more than one wife, say these groups of Muslims in Pennsylvania or the LDS sects such as in Texas, Arizona, Utah? In the wake of the child custody case of the FLDS sect in Texas, CNN reported that it was unlikely that lawmakers would crack down on the polygamists. I am not in favor of polygamy. But there seems to be a double standard here. Gay men and lesbians are not looking to marry multiple partners. They want to marry their one love. Two men married. Two women married. End of sentence. But it seems that the U.S. government and most state governments want to look the other way when marriage laws are broken as long as the scofflaws are heterosexual.
And if CNN ever did any real investigative reporting, they would check out some of the gay websites like gay.com in the "Married" Room and "SilverDaddies.com" and see how many married men are cheating on their wives with other men. This is what happens in society when men are taught to be ashamed of their feelings for members of the same sex - they go about and have clandestine "discreet" relationships outside their marriages to women.
And the women who are married to them are vicitms because they are in the dark about their husbands' true nature. This is the kind of damage that the Family Research Council wreaks on our society. God forbid that gay men and lesbians should feel free to love each other and have relationships recognized.

mike   June 17th, 2008 2:20 am ET

Well written Mr. Perkins.

Marriage is more than 2 people simply loving each other, be they heterosexual or homosexual. True marriage is the extension of love beyond just the 2 individuals. Heterosexual individuals who marry just to please each other and themselves quickly discover something is missing in the relationship. Most of these self-centered relationships which have been labeled 'marriages' fail. Bringing children into a marriage, be they conceived or adopted by the couple, is the most common, yet not the only way of extending the marriage.

I have no doubt many gay people would make great parents. However, Nature has made it perfectly clear that a heterosexual union is the preferred method of not only bringing a child into the world but also raising him/her. Yes, people have made the argument that it would be better for a child to be adopted and raised by a gay couple than to be raised in an orphanage or by the State. Although any child lacking of people to call family is a sad tragedy, placing that already scarred child in a gay home risks compounding his/her existing mental and emotional problems.

As far as gay couples conceiving a child in whatever fashion for the sole purpose of introducing a baby into the family, I'm sorry... but this is wrong. If someone really wants to have a child, he/she should put the needs of the child ahead of his/her own desires to go through life with a particular person. It was intended for every child to have a mother as well as a father. Every newborn deserves this intention, regardless of whether he/she ultimately gets it. A person with a strong desire to eventually have children should focus on preparing to become a good mother or father rather than on acquiring a spouse of whatever gender and believing they deserve the right to have their own children. The couple that honestly contemplates and assesses what is best for a child not yet brought into this world is deserving of having children to call their own.

My hope is that I did not insult anyone in anything I said. I also hope I did not take my valuable time in writing this editorial just for the sake of being heard. Anyone still reading should realize marriage is more than just a union of 2 people, it is a union that serves others before it serves itself. Those of us who are married and have children do not view gay couples as enemies. We are all members of the human race and we should treat one another with dignity and respect. But we should also be allowed to distinguish between a union and a marriage.

Smoothie1981   June 17th, 2008 2:27 am ET

Its always the homophobic republicans that are in the closet, well maybe not the closet, but a bathroom stall at an airport.

Have fun before your next flight Tony!

Mark Goodall   June 17th, 2008 3:16 am ET

Intentional, misleading disinformation. Tony Perkins, you transparent liar, you have the audacity to say on CNN that it is only a minority of homosexuals who support marriage! Americans!! You decide who creates the public policy for your private lives. Individual Americans, an unbelievably diverse group of people, or a deceitful Mouthpiece for a minority who wants to create their fanciful notion of God's law to govern your life. Human equality and integrity or damnation for those don't buy the fables of Mr. Perkins demented notion of existence. Guess who gets to choose.....

walt   June 17th, 2008 4:07 am ET

It's a sad state of affairs in California. The judicial system here has always been twisted and often rebuked by the Supreme Court. The court has decided to sanction deviant behavior, plain and simple. There is no need of a religious argument, one only needs to peruse a grade school biology book.

The whole notion of homosexual marriage is an oxymoron. It is a state that can never be achieved. It can't be consummated. If homosexuals want to have sex, want to love each other, want to live with each other,, etc, etc, so be it. Call it what it is: two homosexuals living together. If the courts want to classify the relationship, fine, call it what it is: two homosexuals living together. Now then, the courts can have something they created and can bestow all the rights and privileges of that 'special' union upon the two co-habitating homosexuals. When one of the two dies or gets sick or wants to end the relationship, the court can happily impose their will on the relationship. But to codify two deviants living together as a marriage is nothing more than the typical twisted logic coming out of san francisco.

Further, to say that homosexuals have some kind of rights as a group is pure fantasy. The founding fathers didn't address them because at that time those who willingly engaged in sodomy weren't held in the highest regard. But again CA has decriminalized sodomy. Wonder what that says about our legislators?

It looks to me like the homosexuals want it both ways. They want to endure in deviant relationships and they want to redefine the marriage definition to suit them. It's so blatantly simple. Sodomy is no longer illegal between us consenting homosexuals, we are no longer criminals, we are 'now' equal under terms of the various constitutions.

Well, to continue on the non-religious aspect of this argument I would simply respond by saying, sorry, no way. Homosexuals do not represent the mores of most in this country. They do represent the degradation of our society. And marriage is as we've known it for centuries, between a man and a woman. If homosexuals want to cuddle, they're free to do so, that is guaranteed by the constitution.

A religious argument is by far the simplest and easiest to support. God is pretty clear on the whole idea of homosexuals. The good Lord set forth the rules. He didn't hide them, disguise them, or make them difficult to understand, He is a loving God, but break the rules, you pay. He doesn't care for some of the things people do, sodomy, for instance. Not much more to say in this area other than a short word to ministers of the Christian faith who espouse homosexuality, marriage included: You are sorely misguided. and a true blight on the efforts of honest hard working clergy.

On a political note, all the America haters should be elated by CA's court. Just another step in the right direction. Decadence, moral decay, financial collapse, etc, etc..............the dying throes of another 'great' society. "Change we can believe in" It's already started To those who say they're not concerned about two men getting married, wake up, you should be. Homosexual marriage is visible, tangible evidence of moral decay, what do you condone about that? And if you condone that, what else is lurking?

Yes, we have a war going in Iraq for some pretty lame reasons, we have some financial problems, we have energy problems, and a host of other problems. But without a sound moral base, high standards, and strong ethic, all the problems don't really matter.

John Rothschild   June 17th, 2008 5:45 am ET

Should we next be able to marry a chimp or your best friend (your dog)

Why is it that as the years go by,we all must have more tolerance toward morality issues. I saw 2 guys ( I was going to use the word men) kissing at a park that my child was playing at. It was the most horrible sight and very discusting.If that is your game, please do it in privacy..

Thank god Adam did not have another man around. He may have chosen the guy instead of Eve. If that had happened, we would not be here in the midst of this debate

Rosie   June 17th, 2008 6:41 am ET

When it comes to making personal choices such as having an abortion or not or marrying a same sex person or not, each individual has a right to choose.
If you are against it, don't do it, it should be as simple as that.
If according to your beliefs same sex marriage is an abomination, fine, marry someone of the opposite sex. But do not subject others to your standards!
I happen to be non-religious, I have no faith or church or god whatsoever. That is my choice and my right. Why should I then abide by rules made with no other arguments than biblical ones? I would not dream of forcing christians into gay marriage , why would they prohibit me from engaging in such a marriage?

I am a straight woman, I live in Amsterdam, the Netherlands and I am married to a man. Gay marriage has done no harm to my marriage, nor has it done any harm to marriages of christian, hindu and muslim couples I know. We all live by our own standards, we respect each others beliefs and we would never try to impose our rules and morals on others.

Why you christian fundamentalists keep using YOUR religious beliefs to interfere with OTHERS' lives is beyond me, since I always learned in school that all modern democracies have a strict separation between church and state.

I feel offended as an atheist by this discussion, I have a right to live according to my believes just as much as a christian, within the boundaries of secular law.

Pat   June 17th, 2008 7:59 am ET

The California Supreme Court is WRONG. This is Outrageous Behaviour by a Court that is supposed to exemplify Justice.And any State that follows their lead has no respect for their citizens.

They should not have the authority upon themselves to remove the words Husband , Father, Wife, Mother or Spouse from a Legal Document employed and lawful for centuries. Who do they think they are? They should be removed from office and banned from ever holding a Government position again. What part of We The People do they not understand?

They are out of their jurisdiction and should be sanctioned. The people of California should not stand for their utter disregard of the majority to appease a minority and cast aside a legal document that has been in force for hundreds of years. SHAMEFUL!

David   June 17th, 2008 8:00 am ET

I really think CNN damages its reputation for legitimate journalism by allowing this article. I really hope they pull it. I understand it is an oppinion blog, but it represents CNN because they sponsor it–and the first page of the blog is nothing but inflamatory remarks with no substance.

Pat   June 17th, 2008 8:13 am ET

TO Matt :
This has NOTHING to do with discrimination and hate towards Gays. You don't know what your talking about. Your reasoning is a cop out.

You'd like for all who perceive marriage and have perceived marriage for centuries, as a legal, sanctified, blessed, union by God and State as citizens who have ingrained hatred against Gays. Well, your wrong.

It has nothing to do with Gays. It has everything to do with the sacristy of marriage that has been a wholesome state of our society since time began. It is about the need to dismantle this state of union for no valid reason other than to appease a minority of citizens that could obtain their legal rights without destroying and putting asunder what has been in practice since the begiinning of time. Don't put the onus on us for the mere purpose of leverage to obtain what a minority feel is their right and who are willing to take away the rights of the majority to get their way !

Leo   June 17th, 2008 8:20 am ET

Heaven help this nation if the pro-gay "marriage" views presented by many on this board are representative of most Americans. I find it amazing that some try to justify their personal views on the CA court's decision with the argument that God is an all-loving being (which is true), so anything goes. Sorry, but His views and standards haven't changed over the millenia, and what was right or wrong in Christ's or Moses' time is still so now. The social left has successfully built a god in their own image: one who ignores his own moral standards recorded in scripture and who elevates tolerance above any other moral virtue.

TESAP. SAVANNAH, GA   June 17th, 2008 8:58 am ET

I believe if two people love each other who are we (society) to tell them that they cannot get married. So-called Christians and others state that God intended for marriage to be between a man and a woman. However, they always neglect to state the fact that God is the judge not man. I really believe that we fear change and fear what we do not know. I am not against gay marriage I am for it, I believe if we start taking care of our lives all of us would be better people. I know that some of us are parents, so how would you feel if your son/daughter is homosexual, and how would you feel if he/she wants to marry the person that they love?

Jeremy - California   June 17th, 2008 9:44 am ET

Tolerance in the United States seems to apply to every lifestyle, viewpoint, or decision....except Christianity.

Look at the problems that Chaplains are running into in the Military nowadays. They can't even say the name "Jesus Christ" in prayer now without the fear of punishment for violating someone's Equal Opportunity rights. A DENOMINATIONALLY ordained minister can't pray the way he wants to pray among like-minded believers for fear of a lawsuit or punishment! What's the point of a chaplain? Why not just hire counselors instead?

Do that to a Muslim in the military though...ask them to not pray specifically to Allah in their prayer and watch the lawsuits and backlash that results.

The word "tolerance" is becoming nothing more than aggression towards anything Christian in America. Might I remind you all that the 10 Commandments are all Judeo-Christian values. Are the things listed there bad ideas? All it takes is compromise on one point before you can justify compromise on every point. Pretty soon we'll be debating what "murder" or "theft" actually means in this country.

I always hear elderly people talk about how much the world has changed since they were young....I'm 27 and I can't believe how much it's changed since **I** was young. God help us.

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