Kathy Jo Nicholson
Former FLDS member
I grew up in the FLDS. I know first-hand the abuse that takes place under the ruse of religious freedom. In August of 2006, when Warren Jeffs entered the courtroom most people saw a pathetic image of a man in chains. I saw my former teacher —- the man who intimidated us and who eventually became the one to whom we were to declare unquestioning obedience as our Prophet. As I viewed Warren Jeffs in chains I couldn’t help but think about the many women and children still bound in psychological chains inside the FLDS. When I thought about his chains, I remembered theirs.
Recently, the state of Texas intervened in behalf of many of those children and young women, who are bound by the chains of abuse. Many have been born into it and they do not know any other lifestyle. They’ve never experienced the freedom to think for themselves or to freely question their leaders. They’ve been told to keep "sweet," to sacrifice their feelings for the greater "good." They’ve been taught that perfect obedience leads to perfect faith. When you are taught that it is a sin to think or question things, you begin to function in total obedience to the will of another. It is as if you are a robot made to do the bidding of your husband and the Prophet.
When you listen to the women who have been separated from their children, your first thought may be sorrow for the women who are experiencing the pain. I was among the first to say that the children should not be separated from their mothers. But these mothers also need to stop enabling these men to hurt their children. They need to seek help and counseling for themselves so that they can in turn help their children. These women are victims, too. They were raised in the FLDS, and told not to question it. I urge them to get out and let their minds be freed from these chains of mental abuse.
Women who are trapped in abuse are often unable to see the damage that it is doing to their children. It is only when they remove themselves from that abuse that they can see the truth.
I urge the women of the FLDS to realize that their husbands and leaders are guilty of the very things they accuse the government of Texas of doing. They have separated children from their real mothers in Colorado City and placed them in the Texas compound. They have lived in dormitories and many of these children may not know where their real mothers are. I am aware of one situation where a man took only his favored wives with him to Eldorado, but he took all of the children. He left the remaining wives behind without access to their kids.
The FLDS has done this and claimed it is their right to "practice their religion."
Wake up women of the FLDS! These are your children! And you have contributed to their abuse! I know you are frightened. I know that some of you feel righteous, but it is never right to abuse a child. Your daughters are being given to men while they are still children!
Enough is enough. Speak out. Get help.
Stop the abuse!
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